Trying to be happy, isn’t working

Hello dear @Peri

It's really lovely to hear from you, thank you for your message. I haven't been much support of late and I apologize for this. I'm sorry you're lonely, it makes me happy to hear your sweetie is with you.

Setting goals can be tricky, well adhering to them really, lifes challenge. I like your smile more one. I always answer the telephone with a smile, lol something I was taught waaaay back and it's stuck. I agree smiling improves the mood.

I hear you about aging. I feel it very much and I'm only 50 :face_with_rolling_eyes: My son's health issues have prematurely aged me along with hereditary ailments.

Have you put any feelers out for work? I know you had a few ideas you were considering. I better run Peri, need to tend to a few things here.

Take care my dear friend and you to @Emelia8 🌷🌻

Thank you @outlander , your thoughts are appreciated.

i hope you are alright and managing everything going on in your life

peri xx

Dear @Anastasia , thank you so much.

i used to get great at setting goals, now I am useless. Yes, aging is a funny business, particularly when you realise that it is actually happening and to you.

Never mind, 50 is still young to me. , though I don’t think that I thought so at the time.

But I had a great role model for how to be old and be active and participate. My mother lived to 101. And she was amazing so I keep focusing on her.

no I have done nothing about work, but I may do some volunteering.

thanks for taking the time

peri xx

Hello dear @Peri yes 50 is young but my body doesn't think so :face_with_rolling_eyes:😆

Wow 101 amazing, God bless your Mum X

Are you getting the winds there Peri, I hear it's making its way across WA. I hope not, please stay safe.

I'm about to call it a night I think, so if I don't catch you take care my dear friend. Hugs and love always 🌹

Sending you some gentle hugs and love dear @Peri. You are very special to me 🙏

Oh thank you @Anastasia ,

i love the flowers, I am glad that I am special to you, you too, are special to me. I think you are amazing, coping with what I think and understand to be one of the most distressing situations for a parent.

i have been a bit off the scene for a week or so. My little granddaughter had some surgery last Wednesday, not very serious, but there has always been disagreement between her parents in the need for this. I did not think it was necessary and neither did her father. But her mother wanted it and it became a contentious issue even in the court proceedings. I am sure I have mentioned that she is disabled, but she does eat fine and drinks. She has had a Naso gastric tube for a few years to be able to top up her fluids as it requires patience and persistence to get enough drinks into her. So the surgery was to make a gastrostomy so that she can have the fluids direct to her stomach and the naso gastric tube removed. After she went into hospital I had a series of nasty messages from the mother blaming me for the tube and all sorts of stuff.

I could go on but I won’t. Anyway my granddaughter has had post op complications and is quite sick in hospital. It has been so worrying and upsetting.. my son is with her tonight. He is very upset that she is ill because this was inflicted on her.

so I have been busy trying to comfort my son and support him and worrying about our little girl.

This son son is the one I have watched over for so many years in the way you watch over your son. So if anything went really wrong here I don’t know what he would do. And I could not bear life without him. So your situation has touched a chord with me and a special place in my heart and soul.

love. Peri xx

Oh @Peri ... what a distressing situation for you, your son and your darling little granddaughter to be in. I am so sorry that common sense appears not to have prevailed in this case. All anyone can do now is to hope and pray that she recovers from the post-op complications that have beset her.

Sitting with you, bringing you a hot cuppa, and lending a willing ear and an aching heart.

My thoughts are with you through such a trying time.

Love to you dear Peri.

Emelia 💕

Dearest @Peri

Thank you so much for your absolutely beautiful sentiments, they really mean a great deal to me.

Thank you too for sharing your story with me as I know is is never easy and brings up many emotions xxx

Oh my goodness Peri it is no wonder you have mentioned you were feeling sad, it is no wonder with such a heavy weight on your heart around what is going on 😔

Your poor, poor darling grandaughter and son!!! Why oh why would her mother put her through this unnecessarily? Her own agenda? I am so sorry that now it hasn't gone the way her mother had envisioned all of a sudden it's your fault! Awful Peri and I am so very sorry. My heart breaks for you and your son.

The poor little dear would be so confused. I am hoping by now she has improved and the complications have been resolved? You must be beside yourself with worry?

I wish I could give you a hug and sit with you.

Praying Peri that the there is a good outcome with all of this. I'm sorry that you know all too well the feelings around losing your son, it really isn't a "club" and mother would choose to be part of. 😔💞🙏💞