I am not my mind

Hey @IamNotMyMind thanks for this post, it's a really good share and an incredibly relatable piece for many members no doubt. Very glad to hear things have improved slightly.

Have you considered seeing a Counsellor/Psych to provide a bit of a sounding board for some of these stresses? You might be surprised the incredible amount of strategies you can come up with alongside a good practitioner. Also keen to know whether you've opened up to your wife about this at all? Look forward to hearing from you soon.

Welcome to the Forum @IamNotMyMind.

I can relate to some of what you've said (although I've been out of work for 4 years). But the never catching up with everything and that the days just repeat.i think that's why my psychologist has tried to encourage me to join a group or club. To break up the day/week. To do something just for myself. That I can enjoy.

Can you think of an activity that you would like to do? Or maybe something you wanted to try when you were younger?

Just a thought to break up your week and the same old same old.

Thanks @Former-Member and @utopia.

Sorry I didn't reply on this sooner, I got... busy. One kid having a birthday, all the end of school year stuff is going on, work sent me on a trip for a week. That didn't go down well with the family. 😞

I did see a couple of psychologists 7 or 8 years ago. They were mostly useless. I am sure there are good ones out there, but there's not a lot of sympathy out there for me apparently. I got the impression I should just read the handouts I was given, be a good boy and soldier on. Whatever.

My wife is pretty good about it. She's understanding but if I'm circling the drain for a few days she'll get competetive with me for how much more tired she is than me, etc and she'll get angry with me and then I'm walking on eggshells the whole time. So it's... ok I guess if I'm at least pretending to man up.

Activities I can do? I used to do stuff. I used to gym, play sport, poker nights, play guitar in a band, go out a lot. I don't have time for that now. I'm too tired anyway in my 1 hr of free time before bed.

Enough with the pity party already!

@IamNotMyMind We are all allowed pity parties from time to time

haha, who is gonna attend mine?

Don't think so, things need to get done.

Hi @IamNotMyMind

I’m hearing you. Relate to parts of this - yes.

Its never ending wake up, ready for work, come home cook dinner clean up watch an hour if tv off to bed. Wake up during the night. And it sll starts again.

Are you able to give yourself a bit if time for a hobby. I read you used to do things - can you go back to do ine of them. I know it’s difficult. Here’s me suggesting but I can’t even go walking due to no motivation!!!!

how many children do you have? Are they little?

i sense that you feel pressured to do it sll with work and bills and mortgage. That’s hard to sit with. I understand that too.

I agree with the others - finding a good psychologist to help you. And yes some are nit helpful. It took me 4 different psychologist and 8 years later and I have a good psychologist now.

I kniw it’s hard to persevere but it’s worth it.

Hsppy to chst again.