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Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember13 Nov 2018, 11:22 am AEDT

Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

With incoming holidays and festivities it's important to look after yourself. For this Topic Tuesday we will have a special guest from Lifeline Australia exploring this subject with us. Stay tuned for more info soon.

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:29 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member

Some thoughts...

The festive season brings with itself many expectations around perfection; for instance, perfect family gatherings where everyone gets along. Your family members may expect things from you that are not realistic in this sense. Being aware of our triggers (you may like to write a list!) so that we can manage our reactions to these expectations might help. Allowing yourself to not be perfect whilst managing familial expectations may not be easy. You may need to allow yourself to take time out of your family setting for ‘me’ time including solitude, spending time in nature etc., for some ‘breathing space’.

If you find you are triggered, how can you take responsibility for yourself and take the appropriate self-care action? (hint: know your triggers, have a self-care plan that is specific to your triggers as well as one that is a regular routine, and put yourself first).

In response to: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

BlueBaySenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:29 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

I’m doing Christmas at my house with my parents after not talking yo them for a few years.

Last time we spent Xmas together would have to be more than 10 years. Im really anxious about the whole day

@Former-Member@Robert_Lifeline

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:30 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@BlueBay

Wow, that is brave of you. How do you think you can prepare yourself for that experience?

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Unknown userMember11 Dec 2018, 7:30 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Wow @BlueBay Do you have a self-care plan in place? Sending lots of love for the day. Thank you for sharing.

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utopiaSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:31 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Dave1977@Shaz51

Yes those family crowds.

Worse when there is someone there who asks you what you do - eg: for a job or activity etc and I just say "nothing "

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BlueBaySenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:31 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Robert_Lifeline I think if I get triggered or upset I’ll go to my en-suite and sit there fir a few minutes. Once everyone leaves I’ll go for a walk or beach.

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Unknown userMember11 Dec 2018, 7:32 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@utopia Yes that question at all times of year can be frustrating. Also our jobs/studies do not define us at all. I prefer the question "What's your favourite book?" or "seen any awesome movies lately"? Thank you for sharing!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:32 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

During this time of year there tend to be a few social gatherings with family and friends,

what can / do you do to cope if these can cause some difficulties for you?

my husband says " he is not going to my family gathering "
only spending a few hours at his family gathering , then going home @Former-Member, @Robert_Lifeline

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Dave1977Senior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:33 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

I find myself scoping out the venue of the party to pick out my quiet zone upon entry. When the time comes, I’ll just excuse myself and go off to read for a little while or walk round the garden. Anything to have a break from the constant chatter and noise, as well as listening to my Sisters compete then fight.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 7:33 pm AEDT

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@Robert_Lifeline@Former-Member

Im actually scared.

Lots of fear thst something will go wrong or they will cancel last minute which will then mean being abandoned

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