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Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember13 Nov 2018, 11:22 am AEDT

Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

With incoming holidays and festivities it's important to look after yourself. For this Topic Tuesday we will have a special guest from Lifeline Australia exploring this subject with us. Stay tuned for more info soon.

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Unknown userMember11 Dec 2018, 8:35 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Alright amazing people - Final question! This one is for you @Robert_Lifeline

What are some common misconceptions clients tend to have about the holiday season from your experience at Lifeline?

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:37 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member Thanks.

Continuing from the point about familial expectations, often we may feel the pressures of family and feel we can’t/shouldn’t take time out for ourselves (doing so would be ‘selfish’). I think in general there are a lot of ‘shoulds’ opeating at this time of the year. If we can let go of that stuff/conditioning/those beliefs and do what serves us the best in terms of helping us be happy, healthy humans, we are practising good self-care and taking responsibility for ourselves as adults.

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RazzleSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:38 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member Good question. I often wonder wether I just have it all wrong - I’m interested in @Robert_Lifeline answer here

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AdgeSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:38 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Such a good question @Former-Member

Adge

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:41 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

I think we can think we have failed if things don't go perfectly/to plan - it's about revisiting what is important to us, the things that really matter - and, how much of that can we communicate to others so they may contribute to us getting our needs met and 'coping' better in general (feeling better)

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Unknown userMember11 Dec 2018, 8:47 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

I think it's important too to remember we're not alone in these feelings. I think at times when it comes to feelings of abandonment, complex trauma, challenging family dynamics we can feel we're the only ones (the never ending tv commercials do not help!). The reality is many people find this time of year a challenge, I wonder @Robert_Lifeline if there's a subtle stigma around speaking up about how difficult the holiday season is to others?

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:47 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

I'm interested to hear others' thoughts on this matter!

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Unknown userMember11 Dec 2018, 8:48 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Hi sorry I'm late hope I havent completely missed it

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Zoe7Senior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:49 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

I find having a dialogue in my mind when things don't go according to plan really helps. It is about not having heightened exectations and more going with the flow but also knowing that I have pre-planned what I can say in those instances when things are getting a little difficult for me in a social situation. Family will inevitably 'push my buttons' at some stage but I am getting much better at walking away and taking time out for myself. I also will have my dog withh me so that is a great excuse to spend time on my own with him in the backyard.

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Unknown userMember11 Dec 2018, 8:50 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Welcome @Former-Member 🙂 We have about ten minutes left with our friend @Robert_Lifeline

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