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Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember13 Nov 2018, 11:22 am AEDT

Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

With incoming holidays and festivities it's important to look after yourself. For this Topic Tuesday we will have a special guest from Lifeline Australia exploring this subject with us. Stay tuned for more info soon.

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:05 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

I'm wondering if we always need to give our families an excuse for leaving the scene to have alone / 'me' time? Some simple messaging around this stuff might help you feel more prepared, secure etc.?

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BlueBaySenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:06 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Omg I totally relate to this @Jumpingcactus

it seems to get harder as the years go by @Robert_Lifeline

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JumpingcactusSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:07 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@BlueBay Agree, I sympathise with you.

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Unknown userMember11 Dec 2018, 8:07 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

Getting so much insight from all of you and of course our friend @Robert_Lifeline 🙂

Next Question! In addition to self-care distractions…

What are some other ways you can exercise self-compassion during this time of year?

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BlueBaySenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:09 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member I have zero self love snd compassion towards myself. 😢

especially st the moment.

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RazzleSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:09 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member Thanks. I do know alcohol isn’t the answer, but the whole day and the lead up to it is so exhausting, overwhelming and painful, it’s the only escape I have. Like everyone else, I have to wear the stupid “everything’s fine” mask when I’d rather be anywhere than at a Xmas gathering.

After we lost our son, all invites to Xmas parties stopped, I haven’t been to a party in 12 years, I’m excluded among my community, friends and sadly by

my immediate family. The accident wasn’t even our fault, it was caused by the other driver.

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:09 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@BlueBay

PLease know that Lifeline is always there for that voice on the other end of the line. I would like to also let everyone know that if you phone the 13 11 14 service and you find that the crisis supporter is not helpful, it is totally OK to exercise your boundaries and self-care and end the call and 'try again' - not ideal I know but it is the reality of a service with 41 centres around the country that we are not always what you expect in terms of consistency..

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JumpingcactusSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:11 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Robert_Lifeline I give excuses because I’m embarrassed to disclose that I don’t feel right. I act all normal but in reality I feel I should be going to the hospital to get them to check my heart is working ok from the stress of it all. You look ok on the outside, but dying on the inside.

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Robert_LifelineSenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:11 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member

Just some ideas to start this discussion off..

Love yourself first. This is not about selfishness in a negative sense but about knowing that unless your own cup is filled first, you cannot fill another’s (‘You can’t pour from an empty cup’). Setting boundaries – even with family members – is part of valuing yourself and your health in this way. Sometimes, knowing what is ‘mine’ and what is ‘the other’s’ in terms of emotional stuff can help with setting boundaries. Saying ‘no’ and not justifying yourself. Knowing your limits. Respecting yourself: What am I willing/OK to do and what am I not OK with?

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BlueBaySenior Contributor11 Dec 2018, 8:11 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you support yourself through the festive season // Tues 11 Dec, 7pm AEDT

The only trouble with doing that @Robert_Lifeline is thst yiu then have to repeat the story

yeah I have used lifeline chst online quite a bit lately dnd most likely during Christmas break.

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