Mum1996Casual Contributor
22 yo son suffering for 6 years.
Hi, I am new to writing in a forum.
I have the most wonderful son that I love to bits. He is intelligent, empathetic, deep thinking, creative, sensitive... all attributes that I think make him suceptible to horrendous mental health issues (depression and anxiety; bi-polar and borderline personality disorder).
He is so incredibly unwell and I walk on eggshells around him, not knowing what to do or say. He wants to do it all himself, which is great, and I celebrate this and try my best to adhere to his wishes, but he doesn't seem to get any better. I am not even allowed to ask if he wants something to eat. He is so thin, just skin and bone and he hardly eats. Recently, he decided to become a vegetarian. I applaud his mission to eat vegetarian but he is hardly eating and therefore starving his brain and his thoughts. He must be eating sometimes because there is evidence of Ubereats piling up in hs room. I dont go into his room as per his wishes and I couldn't get in for the piles of mess anyway. The mess is extremely distressing; it is way beyong teenager mess; it is mouldy food and garbage and chaos. It seems to represent his mind. He sleeps during the day and plays on the computer the rest of the time. Some days he sits outside and has a coffee, goes for a quick walk and even plays the guitar for a bit. He goes out on occassion to visit his girlfriend or new friends he has made doing a fantasy game. These are highlights and rays of hope that he is getting better. But they are such small amounts of his time. He is supposed to be moving out in 3 weeks time because the lease on my apartment is ending and he wants to be independant going forward. He still hasn't found accomodation and I don't think he has saved enough to look after himself. He has missed all his doctor appointments and no longer aligned with a psychologist/psychiatrist. I have sent him a link to the Neami website; what else can I do to help him? Any suggestions?
