Help with boundry statagies

@Janiee I had wondered whether my hubby had BPD when his emotions and behaviour were more volatile with delusional thinking involved .... in fact the entire chsp things probably falls under delusional because he thinks in hiding it everyone thinks he is no longer engaged in it, despite bringing a “truckload” of chsp foods and paraphernalia home every day, and leaving the house each time with rubbish bags in hand ..... and picked up a book called Stop Walking On Eggshells, which teaches you how to find boundaries with abusive behaviours.

Although my psychologist at the tome believed it wasn’t BPD (it’s likely the diagnosis will eventually be OCPD as it has been diagnosed in another family member and appears to be a fit) the counsellir recommended that I continue reading the book anyway, because he felt the knowledge and strategies recommended in it would be helpful for me in my situation anyway.

I hope this helps you.

Have gone and bought that book you recommended @Faith-and-Hope . I just tried to call her but went to medsagebank, so obviously my mind is going a million miles an hour.

She went to my friends place (who called the ambulance ) this morning to get her stuff and told her that my friend didn't love her because she called the ambulance. Which obviously the total opposite is true.

I can not begin to understand her thinking at the moment.

@Janiee

Sending very gentle thoughts your way.

I had a good read of that site you sent me @Former-Member. It was really good, I think it helped to reminded me that its MI that is talking to me and not my beautiful girl. Its hard to remember that sometimes when she is in the middle of an episode.

I started reading that book and had to stop, it was a bit raw at the moment. When I find out she is safe, I will start it again. I just sat there bawling @Faith-and-Hope

@Janiee

She has been seen today food shopping and spoke to my cousins wife, who said she seemed fine. So as relieved as i am I'm also angry over how worried she has so many people and she honestly thinks no one cares. Its beyond me. I think she is trying to punish me for trying to implement boundries. Anyway, thats where we stand at the moment xx @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51

Such a gorgeous photo @Former-Member xx

It’s the illness having its way with her @Janiee. It’s one of the toughest places to be ..... waiting for “rock bottom” and a diagnosis ..... strung out emotionally and unable to make much sense of it all .....

Counter-weight with as much self-care as you can ..... it’s very important to support your own health under this sort of pressure.

❤️💕

@Janiee thinking.of you at the moment.

@Janiee, thinking of you lots

here for you

Reading through this thread brought back memories of a discussion I had with a woman in a similar position some years ago @Janiee. Sending some love, and wondering how you're doing?

It's so difficult to hear the anger that comes through, especially from our children, and not take it to heart. You're being very strong from what I've read, and I hope you're looking after yourself