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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
I’m wondering how others cope with verbal judgements on how you are coping with being a carer ?
Today, I got a judgement from my work colleague that i coddle both my husbands and my two sons ......
how do others cope with this ?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
My mum, now 87 was a school teacher, strict but heart of gold --- @Former-Member, sometimes looking back makes me relise how it has helped us now
@PeppiPattymy very special friend , thinking of you lots 
Hello @Bunniekins, @outlander, @Appleblossom
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Shaz51@Former-Member I love my mum she is what ties me here. Once she passes then I will be free to move elsewhere if I choose.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
@Bunniekins, I am totally sure my mr shaz would totally agree with you
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @PeppiPatty, @Bunniekins, @Former-Member, @outlander, @Appleblossom
thinking of you today xx
my special friend @PeppiPatty, I seem to being judged big time by my cousin , she is lovely , do anything for you BUT my mum is her aunty and She is judging me that I am not doing enough for my mum 
it is sooo hard at times
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
it is @outlander, my sister
and my mum is so indepentant too which makes it harder as you don`t want too take over too much
and I think my cousine expects a lot , but my mum and my MIL are happy with what I do ( so they say )
@Bunniekins, @Former-Member, @Appleblossom, @PeppiPatty
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
thank you my sister @outlander
just so upsetting when she rings a tells me what I should be doing xx
how are you going xx
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
no intentions to help.-- yes @outlander, she lives 12 hours away
she is up here this week visiting her mum and dad ( my uncle who has been in hospital ) and my aunty who is 83
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