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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
I’m wondering how others cope with verbal judgements on how you are coping with being a carer ?
Today, I got a judgement from my work colleague that i coddle both my husbands and my two sons ......
how do others cope with this ?
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hi @PeppiPatty
and @@Boo13 @Bunniekins @Shaz51
Great suggestions
@Former-Member lol
I am so slow at responding to criticisms and very reticent to give them.
It is being able to respond in the moment ... when they come.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Appleblossom Me too! I just smile and let them wash over me and try not to show that they hurt.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
I havent been able to respond like that ... yet ... will work on it. @Bunniekins 
Yesterday someone said a criticism and I calmly said ... its not like that ... was so proud of myself ... it did not upset any apple carts and shows I am getting quicker ..
@PeppiPatty Take your time.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Great suggestionsn @Former-Member
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
It is great suggestions aren’t they and I will use too
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Reticent is the word I was nagging Mr Moody how to use it but he said I meant resistant
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
@Former-Member
Im reading your ideas phew 😅 why can’t I think of these ?
The medication one is brilliant 💡🌸 and so is the cleaning one because I often go to someone’s home 🏠 and do dishes etc .......
thankyou so much ......
judgements are very fullon aren’t they @Bunniekins with children. My family are very judgemental with my son. I was just on the phone with my ex father in law who wAs judging my sons life 24/7 actions. So I got away with saying goodbye ...... my poor poor son .....
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@PeppiPatty yes family can be the worst re: judgements. My mother constantly judges my daughter and all it does is upset me! I wish she would stop. I have asked her too and she did for awhile but who knows how long that will last.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Not Long @Bunniekins
men and women take their unconscious problems out on women .......
esp. us little bit more vulnerable
This is a pic of a quilt I’m making for a baby
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Not Long @Bunniekins your mum will be hoeing in you very soon.
If if you are at a good place ( which I never am ) you could say
men and women take their unconscious problems out on women .......
esp. us little bit more vulnerable “
I have said this to her but not at good times. I did growl at her for comparing my son to his friends that she calls to get information from though.
This is a pic of a quilt I’m making for a baby
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