Happy Mental Health Week

@Zoe7@outlander@Snowie@boot@cheerbear@faith-and-hope@teej@joethelion@frog@Zaphod

I have had the worst day today. Mr has been in a mood for days now and I thought that I might be able to fix the drama by going out as a family to spend time together. BIG mistake. The only time he came anywhere near me was when he stood on my toes literally and even then didn’t say sorry 😐

I am going to find my inner peace ✌️

Not going to put up with this anymore.... it’s too painful 😔

My hubby is unwell, but doesnt know it @Nay69. He thinks he made a sea-change ...... he developed an eating disorder in fact, and still can’t see that is what it is, despite actively masking the symptoms.

He “changed personality” through the course of this thin triggering, and became very emotionally aggressive and controlling ..... and I mean controlling ....,. cameras, phone stalking, the lot. It’s a hallmark of an eating disorder.

Long story short, there appears to be a personality disorder in the family genetics, and what I saw as triggering was actually the sale of our business bringing him full-time into our home orbit, and it has come clear across time is that he had a “work personality” (PD) and home personality, but both couldn’t co-exist in the same space, so the dominant one took over, and channeled itself into a whole pattern of disordered behaviour, triggering the PD traits in the kids in the process. The kids have come into medical view and received support, but hubby is still under the radar .... ☹️

His behaviour is settled when he is left to his eating disordered daily regimen, but flares up here and there like a geyser ......

I have had to learn to push back in the form of disengaging emotionally and setting boundaries ...... beyond that I remain as polite and co-operative about whatever lies within those boundaries as I can, and we continue to limp

forward in this state. It’s not comfortable, but taking this bull by the horns would cause the sort of massive implosion that none of us have to strength to withstand at the moment.

Its just a suggestion, but see whether treating your hubby in a polite, but cursory fashion helps, and spend time out and on your own, gradually developing your own life, within your life, as much as you can.