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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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SallySenior Contributor
Hang in there, @Shaz51...I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. I know when the hospital recently found another tumour with my Mum, I was trying to not panic. But I was very nervous and expecting the worst, already planning and constantly thinking about what would happen next. I understand that your Dad's situation is somewhat different, and that given his relatively advanced stage, this recent news may not be what you are hoping for. It's normal to feel scared and worried about something that may potentially indicate further serious problems for him sooner than you would like, and you may even be finding it hard to hide your feelings about this around him. What is happening is something beyond your control, which makes it even more difficult to deal with. All you can day is take this one day at a time, and do what you have to do to get through each day, no matter how small, how minor it may seem - giving yourself permission to take time out and do something that you enjoy without feeling guilty, even if it is only for 10-15 mins. You don't know yet what these test results mean for him,so try not to pre-empt. Hang in there.
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SallySenior Contributor
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AmberluluContributor
Hey hun,
Doing OK.
You're really brave darling. I just want to say this must be so hard for you right now.
Sending you some loving vibrations your way.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Thank you @Sally and hugs to you too my friend
You are right , one day at a time and yes we will wait for the results for my husband xxxx
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
thank you and good night my friends @Former-Member , @Jacques , @Gazza75 , @Sally , @Amberlulu
hope you all have a good sleep tonight , I am going to try 
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Shaz51 Shaz51 I couldnt put it better than @Jacques ' eloquant words. Am here for you whenever you want a shoulder to cry on. Love peaxxx
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ethSenior Contributor
Good morning @Shaz51 sorry I wasn't around last night. Good to see you had support here. I also couldn't put it better than @Jacques has. Several of the men on my mother's side of the family have had prostate issues. Modern medicine can do amazing things to reduce it and prevent it from advancing these days.
Sorry to hear about your mum's decision too. It must be very hard to hear as her main support person. Hopefully she will find some peace having decided. Stay strong (as you are in my opinion) for the next leg of the journey.
Thinking of you and hoping you too find peace today xx
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Sophie1Senior Contributor
@Shaz51 I can’t imagine what you are feeling right now - sending you biggest hugs 🤗 and loves ❤️ - life can be so difficult - pls be super kind to yourself so you have the energy to get through each day - take one day at a time and try not to think ahead - deal with facts and next steps .. remember to come here for updates and support - you are not alone and will always be supported x
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
thank you @Sophie1 . @eth @Bunniekins , @Amberlulu . @Sally
yes what @Jacques sid last night brought tears to my eyes knowing that i have soo many friends with me every step of the way xoxo
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
yes @eth , i am happy and ok to respect what mum wants to do xxx-
but getting lots of phone calls from cousins who think I should do this or that xx
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