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Blue012Contributor
I suffer huge intense anxiety and I am engaged with professionals! My issue is they all say breathing and yes I know it works and not doing it properly can also bring on my anxiety!
But as soon as I practice or someone tells me to breath properly it brings on my anxiety even the thought and I can just never relax! I've been told this is a learnt behavior and uncommon! I'm lost no idea what to do, I'm not an art craft person either.
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TwinklelightSenior Contributor
hi @Blue012
sorry your going through this. it must be hard for you.
maybe just learning it at your own pace , not at theres. its hard for people to do it, if they have never done it before. i remember when someone was telling me to do it, i just started laughing out loud . but when i went home i did it at my own pace and what works best for me. i hope that helps you a little.
if you ever want to talk im always here for you
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Blue012Contributor
Thankyou I have been practicing to see what's good for me it's just difficult!
Thanks so much for your reply I'll keep trying.
It's like three steps forward then three back unfortunately
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JupiterSenior Contributor
Hi @Blue012
Breathing can work really well for some people in managing anxiety. For others, focusing on breathing can actually increase anxiety as well as making us wonder if we are doing it right! It's great that you are still practising as it is something we can learn to do more effectively in time. However, there are lots of other strategies that can also help to reduce anxiety, and I encourage you to work with your team to discover what these are for you. Anxiety reduction strategies that work for some people include:
- exercise
- mindfulness (not necessarily focussing on the breath but on being present in the moment)
- progressive muscle relaxation
- take time out when you are feeling anxious (e.g. reading, listening to music)
- talk to someone you trust about what is causing your anxiety
- distract yourself from feeling anxious (e.g. watch TV, play with a pet)
- limit caffeine intake
These are just a few alternatives to breathing, there are plenty more strategies out there. Sometimes it takes some trial and error to find out what works best for you!
Take care 🙂
Jupiter
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Blue012Contributor
Thanks so much Jupiter! I have many look at me like I'm crazy when I tell people it can bring on anxiety for me! I so appreciate your knowledge, I think wondering if I'm doing it right also has a huge impact but I've never had it mentioned like this before.
I'm definitely ready for trial and error! Thanks again
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