Advise on stepkids

Hello all,

i was was wondering if anyone has some advise in regards to stepkids.

my partners kids are coming for school holiday. I have meet his sons before twice for school holidays one is 10 and the other 15. I haven’t meet his daughter 16 yet but she is coming this time. They live interstate.

My partner has shown me some messages from his ex saying that the boys don’t like me and that his daughter is prepared to put me in my place when she comes down and won’t put up with my crap.

I eas very careful not to be affectionate in front of the boys. And also my partner slept in the lounge with the boys in their first trip down.

I am really shattered to think they don’t like me and am very worried and nervous. I also have put in a lot of time in planning activities for us when they are here. I am also making sure they get plenty of time just with Dad. Not that they are aware of this but I am paying for a lot of this.

We we had planned 3 nights away just us and the kids as I live with my mum and sister. I am thinking i shouldn’t go. He only see them twice a year.

Has anyone one got any advise for me? I do want just to be a friend to them. 😿