I can't do this anymore

Hi @Former-Member

Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post and to explain the situation to me - I did misread what you wrote about your situation - what I seemed to see was a bunch of warring adults and this is far from the whole truth -

And I agree - you can't go on with this - you have already been deeply hurt in many ways because of your mother's irresposibility and now she is clean and trying to get her life back I would imagine that you could get on with your own life but your younger siblings need to learn to go their your mother for help -

Maybe there needs to be some mediation - because it's no longer your role but the others trust you - and I agree - this situation is really difficult

It's really too much - your sisters need to find their own feet now they are all adults but yes - I think they need help with it - hence the suggestion of mediation - you need to care for yourself first - for yourself and your son

It might be hard to see through all this confusion but your responsibility is first to your son after you make sure you're okay - and I cannot imagine what you have been through

But when it comes to the situation between you and your mother this is something I can comment on - although the situation between my mother and me was different it was a strained and damaged relationship and after having therapy and doing all I could to sort things out I gave up on it and the short story is that I left my mother telling her I had enough of her verbal trash and walked out forever and I do not feel guilty in the least

I am sure you need help with all of this and I hope you can find a good therapist if you don't already have one - I hope you and your sisters can work this out - things have passed working things out with your mother yourself but for your sisters the story is different

It is a very tough situation and you need some help certainly - I repeat that your life is valuable and please remember that -

All the best Baby Dragon - you have done a good job in the past and now it's time for your adult sisters to find their own way - and I do understand your role in the past has its role now - but I think you know it is no longer appropriate

Dec

Hi @Former-Member

You say your siblings are now adults. So it's time for them to let you move on from playing the mother role and let you finally be their sister. I agree with @Owlunar, that meditation or a family counselling session might be a good way to get this,started, and allow you all to live the lives you were meant to live.

You have been doing too much for so long. It's time to focus on you and your immediate family - your hubby and child. But always you first.

Well done for going to hospital when you needed to. And I'm glad you are feeling safer.