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Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember18 June 2018, 2:50 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Life throws up a range of stressors that can impact us is unique ways. Discomfort isn’t generally something we like to feel so when those strong emotions come along, it can be hard to know what to do to manage.

Distress tolerance is all about learning how to deal with strong emotions. So join us, to answer the question, “how do you cope when you feel like you can’t?”

Share your experiences of coping with uncomfortable emotions. What works? What doesn’t? And what would you like to do more of to support you on your recovery journey? 🐼

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Swisschoc1Casual Contributor17 July 2018, 7:43 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I know that feeling so well. The darkness gets darker and stronger and louder. It's so hard to reign my distress back in once this is happening.

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Zoe7Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 7:45 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I am finding that I am more able to 'sit with' fear of a night by talking it out with others - it doesn't just help me 'control' my fear but allows me to see whether that fear is of something real or imagined.

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CheerBearSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 7:45 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I think so @utopia. Anxiety (like all the big feelings probably) can do some pretty full on things! Its interesting to see and think about how different emotions are experienced within the body.

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utopiaSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 7:46 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

If you sit with your emotion/s - that's a scary thought right there - I worry that it will consume me. My thoughts just take over.

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SnowieSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 7:47 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

My distress normally comes out as SH or SI. My feelings are normally sadness, anger and probably the biggest one is guilt. My distress tolerance seems to get higher and higher until something "breaks".

I know distress tolerance is learnt in DBT which I am starting soon so am hoping that helps. I seem to have no control over my emotions or what I do to manage them.

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Tso84New Contributor17 July 2018, 7:47 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I find that sometimes the 'lizard brain' is reacting to the person/situation before I can even think or emote.

My body reacts to a threat (whether real or imagined it doesnt matter, bc my body is reacting as though it is)

I've been reading Brene Brown's 'Daring Greatly' and Dr Van Der Kolk's 'The Body Keeps the Score' and really want to get into trauma informed therapy and yoga, i think those things will help with the kind of distress tolerance and resilience I need. ACT has been a help post distress, but during, I just cant, its too strong.

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utopiaSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 7:48 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Thanks @CheerBear

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HayleyCContributor17 July 2018, 7:48 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

A psychologist once told me that instead of viewing anxiety as concern or worry, to view it as excited about a situation that may be occurring. Whilst I understand that re-framing how you view the somatic symptoms of anxiety may be beneficial in the long run, the thoughts and worry I have in my head make it very difficult for me to view anxiety as anything but worrying about the situation and wanting to run away from it.

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AdgeSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 7:49 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Yes, being able to express my fears to someone can help me a lot.

Also journal writing, to express my feelings.

& Breathing meditation, being mindful of my breathing - helps me to sit with the intense distress feelings, a bit better.

Adge

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Swisschoc1Casual Contributor17 July 2018, 7:49 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I have a gemstone that represents strength that I wear as a necklace and I rub it with my fingers when I'm distressed at work. It's very sensory which I find distracting and calming.

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