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Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember18 June 2018, 2:50 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Life throws up a range of stressors that can impact us is unique ways. Discomfort isn’t generally something we like to feel so when those strong emotions come along, it can be hard to know what to do to manage.

Distress tolerance is all about learning how to deal with strong emotions. So join us, to answer the question, “how do you cope when you feel like you can’t?”

Share your experiences of coping with uncomfortable emotions. What works? What doesn’t? And what would you like to do more of to support you on your recovery journey? 🐼

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CheerBearSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:31 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Self soothing for me often means wrapping myself in my blanket, with a cat (if I can get my hands on one or something to cuddle with if not) and sitting in my beanbag. Finding anything soft, fluffy and warm. Then self-talk. Things like "this will pass, this can't last forever, you'll settle down eventually, you can do this" etc.

Trying to be more kind to myself is something I'd like to work on to improve my distress.

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Zoe7Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:32 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I am beginning to do a pros and cons list to determine when situations that cause me most distress are worth doing or not

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SnowieSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:32 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I have a weighted blanket I use. It was the best thing I have ever brought. I use crafting, watch a lot of a tv series, talk on here, play with my dog, use my coping box

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Sans911Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:33 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

You are so right @Zoe7 I know from some of my lengthy conversations with forum members recently, it has helped me to feel less alone with the feelings I have, and by talking out and sharing of those feelings and emotions help to decrease my distress immensely.

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utopiaSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:33 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

When I was in a less depressed state - I used to find going up to my mountain and meditating really helped clear my head. I'd listen to the birds, the wind in the trees. Feel the sun or wind on my skin. Smell the Eucalyptus. Sense the ancestors close by.

It brought a real sense of peace and calm and "i'm alright".

I'd leave the mountain feeling 'lighter', rested, and dare I say it - Happy

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MoonGalSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:34 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

I have to leave now to make dinner for my wife and I (it is 8pm here now). Thank you so much everyone, I have learned a lot already and will check back in tommroow to see the rest of the responses. I lOVE this community. Thanks @Former-Member for your moderation and guidance through this very helpful topic. Ciao Bellas

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utopiaSenior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:35 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

my memory @Zoe7 has gone. soothing box.

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Zoe7Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:35 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

Goodnight @MoonGal

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Sans911Senior Contributor17 July 2018, 8:36 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

That sounds amazing @utopia

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Swisschoc1Casual Contributor17 July 2018, 8:37 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Distress Tolerance // Tues 17 July, 7pm AEDT

That's exactly how I feel. It stops the immediate distress but builds up a whole lot of negative 'why can't I be heard' in my head.

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