How to stop pretending

Thankyou @Whiteknight

for your reply. I still don't know what to do. I need to think about this a bit more. Maybe I will talk about it eith my psychologist as well.

I appreciate your comments.

BB

You're right @utopia it does take time. I will talk to my psychologist. So far she has been very good in what she does. And like @Whiteknight said there is no wrong choice.

BB xx

@BlueBay I have read through your thread, and though I have nothing helpful I can add, I want to let you know I'm listening and hurting with you. If you can, move slowly. 💞💞

Thankyou so much @Maggie

❤️BB xxoo

Its hard @BlueBay

I dont see it as a yes or no situation ... or tell or dont tell

We have both shared about issues with child trauma and mothers who cannot cope with it and add fuel to the fire of our suffereing ... and reject us ...

I guess feeling like you are pretending is different to have a strong face but not pretending ... if you know what I mean ...

I would allow little bits out in a way that YOU feel good about your management of yourself .. ie .. that you are not being false to yourself ...

,,, it is also up to family if they pick up cues ...

Take Care Bella

Thankyou @Appleblossom

It's a tough one but I think s little bit at a time is good. I think things are changing towards hubby.

@Maggie@Whiteknight@utopia@Dearprudence9

I have a feeling that hubby knows a bit more recently. He has been asking me weekly how my sessions have been. And I've told him the truth how hard they are and how upset I've been.

Msybe now he will start to understand a bit more.

I hope so @BlueBay. It would be good to have your man by your side.💜💕

@BlueBay. It's good your hubby is asking how the sessions are going. Does he know any of the past traumas?

@utopia

Yeah he does know about all the childhood sbuse and who they were. But not all the explicit stuff that went on. I can't tell him. It's too hard.

He doesn't know I've stopped my meds at times or thst I'm not eating properly. Though at the moment I'm eating.

@BlueBay. I'm glad he knows. I was worried you were carrying it all(a secret). And I wwas worried that was too much for you.

It is good he's asking about your sessions. Trying to make sure things are helping. His way of showing you how much he loves you.