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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
I'm sure I'm not the only who thinks (though not consciously) 'oh wow I've had a good day, this isn't me, I need to destroy my day or trigger myself, why, because that's all I deserve'
On a more serious note, how do let's talk about how we can stop ourselves from self sabotaging our good times.
This is something I really need to learn.
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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Hi @The-red-centaur - what a great topic! The tricky part about self sabotage is often we don't recongise it in ourselves when it's happening. I like your approach @TheVorticon - understanding the function of self sabotage and addressing the underlying cause rather than getting caught up in unhelpful coping skills.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Me too with this topic. Have done it today 😔
i don’t know why I have today. For me I know it’s not about not deserving it. I think it’s more a fear of the crash that will come after or being too high and therefore impulsive and then fearful of inadvertently destroying something or someone.
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Today sounds so difficult @Teej. Sometimes, no matter how self aware we are, we find ourselves getting caught up in old ways of doing things. You've done well to notice it and to reach out for support. What have you found helpful in bouncing back from self sabotage?
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
I was reading about a quiz re 30 types of self sabotage.
There were good things about it, but the presenters also, mentioned the "ick" factor as a determining characteristic ... so that for me was a BIG FAIL. They sabotaged themselves with me, but it was only me, probably heaps will buy the book. We need an eye roll emoticon on the forum. Please.
Take Care All
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@TheVorticon you put your finger on it ... an ick factor is not a very objective factor.
So it peeved me ... but you guyz can have link.
I have been aware of self sabotage at the time it happens for a long time, but could not stop it ... so its been a concern for me for a very long time ...I self sabotage much less now ... so things have improved. I might do the quiz .. when I have time.
Good my link thing worked this time 
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-Rayne-Senior Contributor
From time to time people have told me I do this. I don’t notice it though. The one time I did was a few weeks ago when I had to do an emailed test for a job I’d applied for and drank half a bottle of gin in the hour before it started. I didn’t need to, just did. I really needed the job too <shrug> I don’t know the answer to your question @The-red-centaur I guess the first step is knowing when you’re doing it.
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