selinaCasual Contributor
loneliness
Hello I suffer from a serious mental illness which makes me afraid to go out and enjoy my life. I hiberate at home. I feel as if im being excluded from society and im very sensative.
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loneliness
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katoSenior Contributor
Re: loneliness
I understand where you are coming from.... I too have the same issues with trust.
what has helped me is self talk about why I don't trust this person or that..... I remind myself that the indervidual is not against me or is not plannng anything untoward....
it is a tricky feeling and just trying to stick with it remind yourself of the facts that they haven't done anything towards you....
and slowly start reaching put to one or two close people and work slowly at your own pace
it can take time but feel free to open up your feelings here its anonymous which is good because no one here knows you.
I find it easier writing here then opening up to friends but I know that what I learn here will help witj those close to me in my life
Feel free to ask me anything and I will endeavor to answer as best as possible
what has helped me is self talk about why I don't trust this person or that..... I remind myself that the indervidual is not against me or is not plannng anything untoward....
it is a tricky feeling and just trying to stick with it remind yourself of the facts that they haven't done anything towards you....
and slowly start reaching put to one or two close people and work slowly at your own pace
it can take time but feel free to open up your feelings here its anonymous which is good because no one here knows you.
I find it easier writing here then opening up to friends but I know that what I learn here will help witj those close to me in my life
Feel free to ask me anything and I will endeavor to answer as best as possible
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PappyNew Contributor
Re: loneliness
Hi, first post anywhere but you inspired me.
I too find it very hard to go out, people my biggest fear, love gardening but have to see if anyone is about first, I hide a lot the feeling of not fitting in is overwhelming at times not being able to mix and have a social life is frustrating.
I am on meds and doing a lot better still find it hard to face people,rather be alone so I don't have to feel the anxiety and rush of panic.
All the best very brave to post great step.
I too find it very hard to go out, people my biggest fear, love gardening but have to see if anyone is about first, I hide a lot the feeling of not fitting in is overwhelming at times not being able to mix and have a social life is frustrating.
I am on meds and doing a lot better still find it hard to face people,rather be alone so I don't have to feel the anxiety and rush of panic.
All the best very brave to post great step.
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Denv12Senior Contributor
Re: loneliness
Hi Pappy.
I understand how you feel.Its nerve racking but its worth the effort to relearn skills so you can be social again.There are good books out there worth looking into.I'll try to find some for you.Once you break from the anxiety of talking to people you will feel more comfortable.
Try these books to help with various things:
1)Acupressure for emotional healing.By Michael Reed.(this book has pressure points that you can use to reduce your anxiety.)
2)Conversationally speaking.By Allan Garner.
3)How to start a conversation and make friends.By Don Gabor.
Chris.
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selinaCasual Contributor
Re: loneliness
Hi Pappy, I just read your post and it reminds so much of what I am experiencing. It is hard to go out and enjoy yourself if you are so worried about other people. Medication helps a bit but the rest is up to you. I have tried volunteer work and have been invited to go the social gatherings for this year but don't know if I will be able to get the courage to go, being as i stay at home a lot. I guess I will try and see what happens, I dont know. Your post was really helpful to read and I hope that you find the courage to go out becasue I know that you are missing out a lot. Hope you get better soon.
