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ChrisSenior Contributor
So much i want to say, but i cannot say it.
There could be massive repercussions
It could be interpreted the wrong way and used against the ones i love
So its locked inside eating away at me.
I know this doesnt make much sense
But i cannot risk the possiblity of my words being used against loved ones
Caught between a rock and a hard place
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melq83Senior Contributor
hi @Chris
I'm sorry to see you feeling that way!
I do understand in the sense of massive repercussions for what you have said or done.
The only advise i can give u is that if coming out and speaking could help u in any way or someone you love maybe its best to do it.
I have just lost most of my family and friends due to actions that i could not control. At the time i didnt even realise i was doing so wrong, but im aware of it now and i'm getting the help i need. I still have a few friends who are very supportive and are helping me through this really hard time. i also have a few family members, one being the guy i was meant to marry in two weeks time. If anyone had a right to walk away it was him! but he stayed, and we take things one day at a time now.
I have a very long and hard road to go but i know that i will get through it as im speaking up and saying i need help and excepting the help i can get.
i hope this helps you in some way! happy to speak more if needed ...
Mel
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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I have been in a similar situation to you. Here is what I did. I wrote everything I wanted to say down by hand down. I used a nice pen and expensive linen paper so it would feel official. Then to make the feels go away I put some charcoal lighter fluid on it and burned it. As my words turned to ash I felt a tremendous sense of release. I hope this idea helps.
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