What else can happen.? Feeling so stressed

Wow Chris, that all sounds very worrying. So much going on, I can understand why you are feeling so stressed and like your head is in a vice! I really hope that your results for tomorrow are positive.

With your husbands operation, has it happened yet or is it going to happen soon? Try to not worry too much about what may or may not happen (thats what i keep getting told lol). We can't predict the future and worrying about those things only adds weight to what we're already carrying. I wish you could get some accurate factual information about your sister as that would help a lot too.

Here listening and caring, even though theres not much i can say to help. Please keep writing it out if it helps!

LJ

So my husband recieved a letter from the drs surgery yesterday advising him to make an appointment for test results. He thought he already had that, so were not sure whats going on. His operation isnt untll 18th February.

I dont feel much further ahead. I now have to see a gynecologist, and will likely have to have a d &c so more waiting. After i expressed my concern over a long wait to see the specialist. He said he would get his receptionist to fax the paper work through and ring them tomorow for an appointment. His concern was he doesnt want me waiting a couple of months. Ive seen this specialist before and it was a long wait to see her. Still the possibility of it being cancer but he said it is easily treated if it is. And not to get too concerned about it.

Hi @Chris

I'm relieved that it seems, while it still could be cancer, it's very treatable. Does this give you some peace of mind?

Nik

I recieved a phone call from the specialists rooms yesterday. afternoon, and i have an appointment for next Thursday. So relieved about that.

I told my husband last night. A bit shocked . Told me to take our daughter with me to the appointment. I said i wouldnt do that as she has enough going on without worrying about me. Im fine going by myself. Its the waiting i find really hard. I know from what my gp said that i will have to go into hospital for a d & c. More waiting then waiting for results. Then hysterectomy if it is cancer. Im use to coping with having operations with little support, so that side of it doesnt really bother me. As i said its just all the waiting. I barely function on a day to day basis.

My husband is going to go to our gp to get a second opinion and hopefully refered to a dermatologist. I think this is too big a job for gp who just specialises in skin cancer. The state of the skin on his legs is very poor. He has had two previous dvt's and suffers from leg ulsers which take up to a year to heal , plus he is diabetic. So you see my concerns. Im amazed that he has actually listened to me on this.

Well group today. Dont know if im brave enough to bring some of this up.

I didnt spend alot of time on my situation at the moment. I found myself being defensive. Saying i was ok with doing this mostly on my own. The facilitator wasnt convinced. I said i wasnt worried about it and she said i was. She must have seen something i wasnt aware of. I guess i am doing what i usually do. Minimise the situation and switch off the emotion. Its all i know how to do to cope. If i expect nothing from anyone i wont get disappointed or hurt.

There were some other confronting moments, which stopped me in my tracks, but thats the nature of therapy, and that what starts awareness and eventually change to take place.