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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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❤️ @Former-Member ......
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WandererSenior Contributor
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soulSenior Contributor
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@Wanderer and others who are feeling or who have felt that way. It's so hard when you are rejected by the people who are important to you and you thought had your back. I hope things improve for you. It can be a very lonely and empty existence.
Do try to keep the lines of communication open. When they fail, it's really hard to make progress.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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The “just friends” viewpoint seems to be helping @soul .....
The eating disorder is like a third person in our relationship, s9 this has kinda turned it into a house-sharing situation ..... we are co-existing with the e.d. as a family because we can’t “out” it and mr. f&h has no insight into it ..... so it is a way of dealing with the limbo while we await a change of trajectory.
Keeping him as settled as possible has reduced the distorted thinking that was making things a bit scary, and if we can quietly get on with making our own lives work, it is reducing his need to control us. That in turn is reducing animosity and acronimity.
There is also no pressure to try to hold up empty and unrealistic notions of romance .... but it does keep the path open to reinstating a marriage relationship if / when he gets diagnosed and treated, and we can be supported to recover as a family.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Very familiar @Wanderer ......
So glad you have got to talking at this level with each other. It sounds like real progress.
Someimes people have to realise that they are losing everything on the trajectory they are one before they understand they need to relinquish something to be able to hold onto something else .....
Its a very hard road. You are clearly highly empathetic, and the rules of nature appear to be that empathy tend to attract their opposite, or perhaps it’s actually the other way around .... those without much empathy recognise in us someone who will naturally provide a high level of care towards them, but they are unable to reciprocate easily .... although it can be taught if they recognise on an intellectuallevel what is happening and what they need to do to help balance things out, because the relationships are dysfunctional otherwise.
Good for you ❣️
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Yep, a rollercoaster it is .....
Safe travels @Wanderer
Safe travels @Wanderer
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Things are sounding more positive @Wanderer ..... 👍
Morning ..... 👋☕️💕
Morning ..... 👋☕️💕
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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Glad things are looking up. @Wanderer Thought you might see the humour in this painting of broken down skeletons sharing the hearth. (by Ensor)
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Enjoy your day @Wanderer .....
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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The triangle image means it is in a queue to be passed by the moderators before the image appears in the post in its true form @Wanderer ...... so check back later when there is a triangle.
Sometimes images clear quickly, sometimes they take aaaaaages ....... depending on a couple of things - the availability of moderators for whom the forumites are their greatest priority and images secondary ...... and the length of the image queue .....
Sometimes images clear quickly, sometimes they take aaaaaages ....... depending on a couple of things - the availability of moderators for whom the forumites are their greatest priority and images secondary ...... and the length of the image queue .....
