Seeking help from others of Husband with Bipolar

Hi @LOVELUKE, I am also a loving wife of a husband with bi-polar, and like yours, he had to give up work about three years ago. So I am working full time to support the family.

I like your positive, pro-active approach to supporting your husband. This is an illness that can happen to anyone. I would much rather be the carer than the one who is ill. And like you I also have sought ways to be more supportive.

Years ago I was advised to read everything I could about mental illness and personality disorders. I found this very helpful. Sometimes just choosing certain words to use can make an enormous difference, once you can hear what they are really trying to say.

Unfortunately my husband has deteriorated and it now looks like he has schizophrenia. All things considered, he is doing remarkably well and has a number of strategies to help him get through each day, even though we have two adult children who also have schizophrenia. His medication makes him very drowsy and he needs to spend a lot of time each day in bed. It helps me to remember what he was like when he was working full time as a primary school teacher, and how highly esteemed and deeply loved he was by parents and students alike.

Hello @LOVELUKE, @perseverer

I am also a loving wife of a husband with bi-polar 11

we are self employed with a very very low income due to my husband is unable to keep a job

I have tagged you into the thread called " the ups and downs of my husband`s MI "

@Former-Member, @Bunniekins

My husband has been diagnosed with Bipolar for about 7 years now it was only when his dad got the big C word and passed away that husband fell down big time he was looking after his dad while he was sick and his dad was his best mate. We are still dealing with all the court dealings of his will and super and this is 3 years on so it's very hard for husband to try and even get his life back on track with these procedings going on. His mother left him when he was 2 and he moved out to Australia when he was 9 years old with evil step mother who was very evil and mean. Also with his older sister and younger step brother. His sister is a recovering alcholic and his brother is a very selfish person who mainly cares about himself. So husband has not a very supporting family on his side but a very close family on my side which he tends to pull him self away from due to his parnoid thinking. My husband has self destucted many times and in front of me he has been addmitted into hosptial probably 5 to 6 times. Some days i think he is getting better and has a great day then the next he wont even talk to me. My husband coaches football team which is his highlight of the week. He says to me that my son and his footy boys are the only thing that makes him happy, this is really hard to take in but when he muddled and lost i'm the worst person in the world to him. Sorry just having a vent

talk away my friend @LOVELUKE , it does help

My husband has had depression all his life , been diagnosed with lots of things in his life and now with Bipolar11

he has nearly ended his life twice , been in hospital twice , yes sometimes they say things that they don`t know they are saying , i have cried over some of the comments

at the moment he is playing yoyo with his meds which is not helping his sleeping , I also have $ step children who are adults now

sending you hugs

Hello @Liverpool10 and welcome to the forum

Yes my husband hs bipolar 11

and is trying to give alcohol up to see if it halps

sending you hugs and letting you know you are not alone , so keep writting here and say hello to some friends @LOVELUKE, @Former-Member, @perseverer

Hello no i tend to cry alot, feel alone alot of the time.