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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Not too bad. Thx @outlanderCould not sleep last night, so cancelled volunteer work at the zoo. Felt relieved by relevation from osteo, that I could make the decision without a torturous internal debate and pushing myself to the nth degree.
Thank vollie co-ordinator for her attitude, so I dont think I have jeopardised my position there.
Slept in, had 2 pre arranged phone calls with MH, drove my son to friends & activity, prepared a big keto friendly tray for him to bake.
Need to down some dinner and off to rehearsal. It is in city from 7.30 - 10.30.
Are you alright? Outlander?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Go Gently . @outlander
I am sure you are wise choosing movies for your sisters.
Being able to research on the net is still relatively new for me (only last 5 years) It can help making decisions easier.
Talk later.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
I used to call that restlessness stabilitis.
I used to live in a renovated stable, and it was when we had to just get out ...
thought you might relate.
It was cool ... lil spiral staircase ... 2 storey ... slate floors ... white wash outside ...near the beach.
@outlander
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
SO different from my son who is very much an inside home boy.
I like a balance. Mostly lit & music is done indoors though I have been to a few caamps and love parading in the bush singing or banging a drum.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/225677221_Adult_Attachment_in_Children_Raised_by_Parents_with_Schizophrenia Anxious and ambivalent attachment is part of me
M Bleuler
Coming to terms with the severity of my childhood by doing a literature search.
Even in the literature there are few with both parents with the Sz diagnosis.
My own parenting commitments are giving me time enough to process the material more completely.
So I have to admit that for my son, both his parents also had complex mental illness. So we really do deserve the support and DSP etc. It is not like my aunties who were pretending that I was malingering. Their judgement put me under about a decade of extra doubt, fear and pressure second guessing myself.
Just so that they did not feel guilty. WOW.
My 2nd nephew is coming for a visit next week. The half Chinese one. I am looking forward to it, but also not expecting too much.
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