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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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DimitySenior Contributor
Hugs 🫂 @Appleblossom
How extraordinary to recognise the epicentre of the ripples of repercussions for you and your lost siblings.
Be gentle with yourself... let the memories wash by... sitting with you.
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tymeModerator
Thank you for sharing @Appleblossom . That is so so so powerful.
And as I've mentioned in the past, I am so grateful that you've allowed us to be part of your journey. It is incredible to witness your strength and your stance despite the adversity you have endured.
We are so grateful to have you.
Hugs.
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tymeModerator
Hi there @Appleblossom @Dimity ,
Sitting with you both.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
It was spooky. He said he was at RAAF bases, local and NSW, and mentioned a name I didn’t know, I showed him 1966 crash from online. I asked him when he was there. He had been an apprentice there at the time, and knew the type of jet. I looked it up after and it was the just north of Newcastle base. We had been talking about lots of science, music and cultural history. he was also Dutch, so we talked about WWII in the Netherlands as well.
It’s just important, as we were raised that we were in orphanages due to dad being mad. End of story. However, I know that is not the simple truth anymore. Mother had the same diagnosis. It didn’t add up. Cos he was usually respectful, considerate and socially relevant and taught me many little things in a child appropriate manner. Children do not always know what is going on and it can take a while to put the puzzle pieces together. I always knew it wasn’t my fault we were abandoned. I didn’t know how to be cheeky or naughty.
Yes, I will go gently today. Making chicken and creamed corn soup and going to a concert tonight with a friend of 3 years, as someone gave me free tickets.
Thank you @Dimity @tyme
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
sitting with you @Appleblossom , @Dimity 😍
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
https://www.phototimetunnel.com/when-sabre-jets-crashed-on-newcastle
@Emelia8 @Dimity @tyme
it just explains so much. Even why I ended being interested in science. This guy’s father did geophysics.., and we were just yammering on….so it had the science…the personal….and the woo…
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DimitySenior Contributor
💚 @Appleblossom
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thanks @Shaz51 🥰
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DimitySenior Contributor
Words fail me @Appleblossom .
Shocking. And your parents vulnerable people.
Thoughts and prayers.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
I don’t remember the bang of the crash, just walking on the wing…innocent and cautious…. No hype….and dad talking about it, as more of the story came in…
just checking the real date… it’s 17th August and lil brother was born 25 th… so mum still heavily pregnant with him and 3 of us littlies. Wow. He died at 50.
His son texting with my son today… one day I hope I can tell my nephew that story…
I still have to be extra careful… all the issues… premature deaths…. lots of walking on eggshells…
actually all the 3 nephews deserve to know these circs of their fathers’ wardships….
Sad my daughter prefers to blame me for everything… she is so invested in blame game… She doesn’t want to know. Maybe… one day.
@Shaz51 @Dimity @tyme
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