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Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor03 Apr 2018, 4:24 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

It's not uncommon to worry about a loved one, but it becomes a problem if it impacts our day to day life.

Does anxiety spike when you have to leave your loved one to go to work each day?

Have you stopped going out with friends because you're worried about leaving your loved one at home?

While the desire to stay at home and keep an eye on a loved one may help you control your anxiety in the short term, allowing it to stop you doing things that help your own mental health can be damaging in the long run.

During this Topic Tuesday we'll open the floor to hear how worry and anxiety about your loved one has impacted your life and share techniques and strategies so you don't compromise your own mental health.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:13 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

Not always required @NikNik as we are always together , go everywhere together

and as I don`t drive , I text Mr shaz when I have finished at th hairdresses ect and he texts and picks me up

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NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:14 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

That's a really good idea @Determined That is probably a common concern for all carers here!
Do you have a safety plan with your partner, so she has someone else to call if she can't get through to you or is she unlikely to reach out elsewhere?

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JodieanneContributor24 Apr 2018, 8:15 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

I use facebook as a way of check in. My daughter lives 2 hours away so this is one way i can check on her. She will not use facebook if she is unwell

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:16 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

I am also fortunate that uni and work (I work at the uni) are most understanding that if necessary I can down tools and run home if necessary. Not having to worry about that impact makes such a decision much less stressful, I do still find it hard though as I want to be seen as reliable.

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NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:18 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

How about you @Tanglefoot Do you have any agreed upon plans or strategies with your daughter?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:19 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

@NikNik --- you wrote ---You can cater these to what works for you. Some people use a similar 1-3 scale.

I have been starting this in our daily life , in the morning I have started to ask mr shaz how he feels and then I am finding to work out what kind of day , how much work and rest needed

1 – All good / okay

2 – Not great, but working on it and will be okay

3 – Not doing okay, need support

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NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:20 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

Welcome @Jodieanne
That's a great tip - especially for those not living with their loved one.
So it seems like it's not only what they are telling you - but lack of communication that is an indication for you @Jodieanne

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:20 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

There are people she can contact @NikNik , her mum, my mum, close friend or church pastor but she never has, usually just implodes when she cant get me. (Based on fear of rejection and abandonment)

There was one ocasion recently where she actually drove out to the uni to see me because I had my phone off.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:21 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

That must make SUCH a difference having that support at your workplace @Determined

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NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 8:21 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

That's great @Shaz51 !

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