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Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor03 Apr 2018, 4:24 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

It's not uncommon to worry about a loved one, but it becomes a problem if it impacts our day to day life.

Does anxiety spike when you have to leave your loved one to go to work each day?

Have you stopped going out with friends because you're worried about leaving your loved one at home?

While the desire to stay at home and keep an eye on a loved one may help you control your anxiety in the short term, allowing it to stop you doing things that help your own mental health can be damaging in the long run.

During this Topic Tuesday we'll open the floor to hear how worry and anxiety about your loved one has impacted your life and share techniques and strategies so you don't compromise your own mental health.

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AdgeSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:32 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

I feel similar @TAB That no-one will be there for me when I'm infirm or dying.

That's because no-one has been (physically) for many years, I live alone.

Dad's passing (2 years ago) has left a void that cannot be filled (so far).

I still wish that he could somehow walk back in the door, just a wish not a delusion...

In my Carer role, I often have anxiety & intrusive fears & concerns about the people I care for - even the next day, over weekends, or long after I've gone home.

I cannot seem to leave those fears or concerns behind, to just enjoy myself (or my own time) at home, etc.

Adge

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Shaz51Senior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:32 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

Hello @NikNik

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Unknown userMember24 Apr 2018, 7:35 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

I work from home so it is more Mr D going out on his own, with a history of going walkabout (with intent) in the back of my mind is that history will repeat. Meds do appear to be effective so am not quite so concerned. I had an 'anti-theft' device fitted in our car which means the car can be located if needed.

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NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:35 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

@Adge - that's so much to manage.
I hope tonight is helpful in trying to find those moments to yourself without the flooding of all these feelings.

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NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:35 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

Hi @Shaz51 🙂

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Shaz51Senior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:36 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

Leaving Mr Shaz alone the first time after he attempted was scary for me also @Former-Member, @NikNik and then he attempted again

and the next time took himself to hospital

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TanglefootContributor24 Apr 2018, 7:38 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

Yes she’s still at home. Work ....depends who you get when you ring. And it’s not what is said but the way it’s said. I’m at a stage now it’s my family first

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Shaz51Senior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:39 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

@Former-Member, @NikNik, @Adge, @TAB, @Tanglefoot

we have choosen to work self employed where we are together but I get anxious when he goes up to the garage to do things as this is where i found him on his second attempt @NikNik

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NikNikSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:40 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

It’s so important to remember - your reactions are so normal under the circumstances you're in.

They reflect how you feel and shouldn’t be judged by others who aren’t walking in your shoes. It’s also important to remember not to be tough on yourself! Everyone’s experience is unique, although there are many feelings and experiences that carers have in common.

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AdgeSenior Contributor24 Apr 2018, 7:40 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Feeling anxious when away from your loved one // Tues. 24 Apr. 7pm - 9pm AEST

Thanks @NikNik I'm thinking that a 5 week Distress Tolerance Group course (offered nearby) might be helpful...

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