physically unable to move due to unhappiness

hello , just seeking some help. Have been seeking a relationship for years and even though had a few friendships and short term romps with women , I have not had a long term , effectionate or sexual relationship . I am now 58 and after a 11 year friendship with what I thought was the one but was going nowhere have decided to move on . Even if she wants her friendship , and has told me that is all she wants from me , changes , I would now not want to be with her . I have gotten back on the social scene but being of an ethic background , am seeking similar and even though little to choose from , are there. To add to the difficulty is that I live in a country town and the constant travelling is tiring me out. I have recently sought counselling advice again (twice now ) but even the counsellor said there is not much he can do for me after the last session and even though I realise there is no silver bullet , medication etc , even the long drive to see the counsellor is tiring . Previously , where I have had the same feelings , I got over them eventually but now when I wake up , I find it very difficult to motivate myself to even get out of bed and even worse I feel I can not physically move because of my emotions. It is only after with great effort and some hour or 2 , that I can get up and get going to do basic chores like bathing , cooking , gardening etc. Any advice would be gratefully welcome.