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Seeking mutual support from carers

Bella1978Senior Contributor23 Mar 2018, 12:49 pm AEDT

Seeking mutual support from carers

Reaching out to others who are in a caring role. I look after my mother with multiple health issues, including depression and anxiety. I feel stuck. I can see the signs that the depression has reared its head but my mum doesn't see it. I really struggle when my mum's mental health suffers. I too battle with depression and anxiety. Emotionally, I am all over the place. Hoping there are some others out there who understand what I'm going through.

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Bella1978Senior Contributor01 Apr 2018, 11:11 pm AEST

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@outlander
No specific plans luv. Will go walkies, and I do need to get some groceries. But apart from that - no plans.
There are a couple of nice parks I like to walk around and sometimes I'll just walk around my neighbourhood.
As for mama being off with the fairies - it may well have been exacerbated by the uti. Its hard to know when mum has uti - she doesn't get any burning.
What u up to tomorrow luv?

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Apr 2018, 11:35 pm AEST

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a nice and easy going day sounds like a good plan @Bella1978

walks in the parks are often nice depending on how many people there are. i like peace and quiet more than anything atm.

do you have any hobbies like arts/crafts,knitting, patchwork, writing, gardening, anything like that?

i didnt have burning when i had a uti either- i had a nasty kidney infection that took 3 rounds of antibiotics to get rid of but no burning.

um im suppsoe to be helping move boxes around which i wont be able to i dont think not with this arm. i cant even hold a small plastic lightweight cup let alone anything else. pops home tomorrow as well. and prob have mys sisters maybe. i dont really ahve any specific plans though.

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Bella1978Senior Contributor01 Apr 2018, 11:51 pm AEST

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@outlander
Walking is one of my hobbies - i also enjoy baking but eat too much lol. And studying 😊 i enjoy learning.
Oh luv, 3 rounds of antibiotics - hooly dooly! Mama has chronic kidney disease so we gotta be careful when it comes to her kidneys.
Sounds like u got a busy day planned but u definitely need some time out for urself luv 😔
Sweetheart, im gonna hit the sack. U be ok? Xxxxx

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Apr 2018, 11:55 pm AEST

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Baking and learning are to of my favourites too @Bella1978
Yeh it was really dreadful time. I really feel for those with chronic kidney conditions.
I doubt ill get time to myself. Mums here at 830am.
Thank you for chatting with me and for your support as well. I hope you sleep well and tomorrows a good one for you ❤

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Bella1978Senior Contributor01 Apr 2018, 11:59 pm AEST

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@outlander
I always look forward to our chats 😘😘
I'll be in touch tomorrow to see how your day is. Please try not to overdo it sweets.
I hope u get a restful sleep.
Xxxxx

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Apr 2018, 12:01 am AEST

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Goodnight @Bella1978 💜💚💙

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Bella1978Senior Contributor02 Apr 2018, 9:59 am AEST

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@Susana
Checking in to see how you are luv.
How was your Easter?
Xx

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SusanaSenior Contributor02 Apr 2018, 2:18 pm AEST

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Hi @Bella1978,

Thanks for checking in. We have had a nice Easter break... Though the 8 year old doesn't like the change of routine.... He loves going to school!

I don't know what it is, my hubby tells me it's the autumn grass going to seed that's making my eyes really itchy and irritated, hence avoiding texting and screens. Life is still tiring, plodding along.... At least it's better than drawning hey?

How's your mum? What was her response in receiving your flowers?

One step at a time.... One foot in front of the other, I keep reminding myself. Trying hard to not answer too many calls from mum, to give myself a break.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor02 Apr 2018, 2:39 pm AEST

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Hello @Bella1978 , you said your Mama has chronic kidney disease

I have Chronis Kidney disease stage 4 and only have one kidney working at 24%

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Bella1978Senior Contributor02 Apr 2018, 9:24 pm AEST

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@Shaz51

Hey luv, how are you?

Yes, my mum has CKD - her base line egfr sits at 30. she has regular blood tests though to make sure it stays stable. she has had it for a while now but her previous gp never told us, plus she never told us that mum had a lesion (that turned out to be cancerous) on one of her kidneys. fortunately her current gp picked it up and it has now been removed. i know the CKD plays on mum's mind a lot. we go the appts together and she is actually pretty good at asking questions so she understands what is going on.

do you have a specialist that monitors your kidney function to make sure it stays stable?

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