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Feeling Angry

Snowflake86Contributor26 Feb 2018, 4:21 pm AEDT

Feeling Angry

This is my first time on here.

My partner has recently been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, although we knew something was not right it has finally been diagnosed.

I have been noticing so many things that he does that are making me amgry and resentful even though i know he doesn't remember doing or saying these things. I feel as if i'm the only one who cares about everything and he is using the BPD diagnosis as a blanket as such.

How am i supposed to overcome these feelings and look after the kids, house and everything in between?

I have Clinical Depression as well as PTSD to a point after the birth of my stillborn son.

I feel as if i'm falling apart while still trying to maintain every day life.

Any suggestions as to how i can deal with these things?

Thankyou for listening.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Mar 2018, 7:10 pm AEDT

Re: Feeling Angry

@Snowflake86, I honestly don't know how I do it either. A big part of it is I am stubborn and not a quitter but mostly out of love. Despite how difficult things are I do still love my wife.

Having children is also a source of strength for me, one child in particular is emotionally dependant on our family staying together. For me my childrens wellbeing and happiness needs to come before my own.

My mental and subsequently physical health has definatly suffered as a result of our situation but I am working on utilising supports and maintaing self care to combat that.

I really hope things work out for you and your family.

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Snowflake86Contributor14 Mar 2018, 11:02 pm AEDT

Re: Feeling Angry

Yes I do completely understand you with your children, I guess they are my main concern because I'm not being able to look after them properly and I have put them in this environment which they are not used to, meaning more breakdowns for my daughter and my sons anger is exploding. Thankyou for your kind wishes and I hope you really utilise all supports and keep yourself healthy for your family, I truly commend you.

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Snowflake86Contributor05 May 2018, 7:21 am AEST

Re: Feeling Angry

It has been quite awhile since I have been on the forums, so much has been going on, things have been progressing with my partner and his BPD... We have had many transparent chats about behaviour, things that help and don't help and ultimately putting together a time line from his limited memories (childhood till now) and the events that have occurred that he can remember.
We are trying to figure out what happened to him as a child since his memories are blocked until a certain age.
Has anyone else done this kind of timeline before?
Also wondering if anyone has had any luck with unlocking memories? He has a gut feeling something rather nasty happened but can't remember anything before about 6 or 7 yrs old...
I've added myself to a Clinical Depression group (for myself) and have read that quite a lot of people have found ECT has stopped suicidal thoughts pretty much completely, it's something I want to bring up with the Mental Health team but also wanted to see if anyone from here has known of it to help with BPD suicidal thoughts? Not sure if they come from the same part of the brain or different altogether.

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Unknown userMember05 May 2018, 10:43 am AEST