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Hi @Snowie, just checking in on you. Can you tell me what's going on for you today? ☺️💛

Sending you lots of tender hugs my sister ❤️ @Snowie

I know it is so hard

To remember it is her sickness, not mum

I also had to tell myself that mum was going to say something terrible, and when she did tell me it was not a surprise

And then at home I allowed myself to have a cry and told my husband

Xxxxxxxx

Hi @AuntGlow

Mum said sorry, but it makes no difference. She thinks just because she said sorry that everything will be ok. She can't take back what she said. The damage is done.

Spent most of the day hiding from her, from others, from myself.

Good to set boundaries too @Snowie

Not sure when you visit your mum but I used to go every 3rd day

Mum got used to that and she had it marked on her calendar

Thanks @Shaz51

I've cried lots of tears yesterday and today. Hubby just tells me to ignore it, but that's very hard to do.

I know it's not her, it's her illness. Yet she remembers what she says and said sorry thing morning. So she still knows what she is saying at the time.

@Shaz51 she still lives with us so there are no boundaries set up. It's a constant every day thing. No days off

This must be so tough for you @Snowie... I am glad she apologised, but the biggest apology is changed behaviour, isn't it? What could she do differently here? 💕

Ohh sorry sister @Snowie xxx

Did not realised xx

Yes my mum was home with us until she broke her hip and the doctor put her in hospital permanently

And I am not allowed to say what she weighed on here

Thinking of you @Shaz51 @Snowie - sounds so rough.

Hugs

@Shaz51 she did respite and liked it so looking into permanent care. As always, everything just takes a long time to get sorted out.

So for now she is still with us. She can't live by herself. Struggles with everyday things.

@AuntGlow she has Dementia so I can only see things getting worse from here. She'll loose her sh*t again, blame it on me, tell me off, and then 24hrs later apologise.

I done it, tried LL, tried prn, not much point now