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Paranoid partner

AhsirtCasual Contributor

Paranoid partner

Hi I have been with my partner for 12 years. Looking back I think he has had problems the whole time but now they are getting worse. He used to blame everyone for setting out to grt him and now he is blaming me. Examples include arranging for gay couples to sit next to us at restaurants, organising who sits next to jim on planes so that they annoy and stress him out, organising the shop he bought a tv from so that the indtalling technician could monitor what he is watching. He is getting worse. He had booked in to see a GP to talk about how stressed he gets when these issues arise but has now pushed appointment out for another 3 weeks. Tonight he has made more accusations saying i am deliberately causing him stress by lying. I am actually scared of him now. We have been in separate rooms for about 2 months now. I really care and worry about him but am unsure how much more I can take. I think I need to leave. Is this a bad thing to do?

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NatalieSSenior Contributor

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Hello @Ahsirt

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better. These forums, and the caring people who post here, have helped me so much. Sometimes I get so caught up with something going on for me, or in my life, that I feel so lost and alone, and I can't see any other solutions or options other than what's jumbled in my head. Sometimes it helps me just to get things out, and this is a safe place for me. And it takes alot of time and energy working on personal relationships. And often there are grey areas so thing's aren't always a "yes" or "no." And people here have all different life experiences, so I value the different perspectives.

I wish you all the best.

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