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NikNikSenior Contributor
For some, the term 'carer' can feel uncomfortable - they are a mother, husband, friend or sibling, whose loved one happens to have a mental illness.
For others, the term 'carer' resonates with them
How does the label of 'carer' sit with you?
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HenryCasual Contributor
I think the equivilent dollar value for that is around the $60 billion mark. Huge numbers that really don't go close to describing the true value of caring for someone.
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HenryCasual Contributor
It certainly is on the east coast, perhaps we can learn from your systems.
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NikNikSenior Contributor
So what I've heard so far in describing ourselves as has included;
- Carer
- Wife/ husband / daughter
I have also noticed that people have avoided 'labels' and prefer to say 'I support my xyz' and similar statements.
What about the other terms in the survey I shared earlier ( I think I can already anticipate the answer) which were the terms:
- Assistant
- Supporter
- Helper
(these are in the context of unpaid)
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SusanaSenior Contributor
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SusanaSenior Contributor
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Yesterday I was looking at the $ figure on our health insurance statement for my darlings hospital admissions and almost choked so I would believe that figure. Makes the centrelink carer allowance payments look cheap by comparison.
(And that is not intended as a complaint about centrelink, I am most grateful and couldnt do without it).
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
I definitely prefer to say 'I support my wife' @NikNik, but I also see that in many ways as my role as a husband and something done out of love rather than something that is an obligation or because I have to.
It would be the same for a child (an I will most likely be in that position with one of our children as he reaches adulthood).
For me supporting has a feeling of enabling independence as much as is possible rather than implying my loved one is helpless. (does that make sense?)
Also as Darcy mentioned earlier I am sensitive to my darlings feelings for the same reason.
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NikNikSenior Contributor
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HenryCasual Contributor
Thanks for the opportunity to get involved, I have to sign out now but look forward to reading the rest of this conversation. Thank you!
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