Need some assistance/advice.

Do you have regular contact with him ... a weekly or monthly meal date to catch up ...that can be a stable point of contact outside the hospitalisation issues.

Is he managing any of his university work ...

It sounds as if he is genuinely stressed and managing paid work as well would be unlikely. Perhaps keeping positive contact and adjusting performance expectations for a while might help .. unitl he stabilises. Often courses give extensions of time to enable people with disability to finish them over a longer period of time.

The doctors have mentioned bi-polar with regard to my son too. It is hard treading that parental line where we do have responsibility to letting go bit by bit ... to allow our children to take up an adult load.

A friend of mine who also works in health science had dashed hopes when her daughter ended up selling jewellery in market stalls for a few years ... though the daughter also had a degree ... though they have come to some happy outcomes now ... each person's life is so unique ... keep focussing on son's positive traits and be patient with yourself.

The level of pressure and speed of life these days seem to take its a toll on sesnitive talented people ... only a few manage to get on the right train ... all of the time.

Hi @slimdebmac

Welcome to the Forums.

It is hard to watch a loved one put themselves through these horrible things. I'm really glad you reached out here.

You're definately not alone in your experience - one member that comes to mind is @Untethered who cares for a daughter with bipolar (you can read more here).

We have also had a Topic Tuesday session called 'What if they don't want to be helped?', which you might find an interesting read. Find out more here.

I'm really glad your son is in contact - that is a plus 🙂