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hi everyone, i really don't know where else to turn, this is the first time i have bene on the carers forum, my partner is suicidal and she almost made an attempt 2 days ago, she had to change meds because of the warf strike preventing her meds comming into aus, and the ones she is on now have made her really unwell, she can't make phone calls and she is scared of police comming to her house. i have tried contacting so many people to get her into a MHU, i have talked her into going volintarily, but their is no way that i can find to get her their.
@Jacques, thinking of you lots my friend and your partner
hope you are ok , take care and try to get some sleep inbetween , I know it is hard to do , I could not sleep when mr shaz was in hospital , all i could do was rest in the redcross rooms where iwas staying
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@Jacques Encouraging you gently with your diet too, at times of high stress, healthy eating along with adequate rest can make a heap of difference. As with all things carer, easier said than done...
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Hi @Shaz51@Former-Member
i am trying im, really exhausted, but everytime i try to sleep i have a panic attack, so i am just taking baby steps.
thank you @Former-Member yes, i am guilty of "comfort" eating, and i have been doing a lot of that lately. but i am trying to keep the snaks healthyish 🙂 is their is such a thing 🙂
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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sitting with you my friend @Jacques
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Thank you @Shaz51, I think things will be ok, just a small setback, I just hope I can keep her safe for the year, I don't want to lose her. It worries me one day she will do something silly because I can't respond quick enough. Maybe me just worrying to much. I hope Mr Shaz is going OK, please say hi to him for me. Hugs to you too, I hope things are better for you
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@Jacques
Can I ever so gently remind you that we sometimes put unnecessary pressure on ourselves. No matter how much we love, no matter how much we protect, no matter how quickly, or if indeed even if we do respond in good time there are things we cannot stop.
Diverting my worry to learn what I could do to respond appropriately, to eliminate expressed emotion as much as possible and to put boundaries in place to
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... learn healthy and appropriate ways to respond to our lived ones illness was what I have had to do to be able to cope.
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@Jacques Have you been able to get adequate rest?
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Hi @Former-Member, yes you are right, I feel a lot of pressure to keep her safe, but it is because I love her so much, I don't want to lose her so soon after we met.
We have spoken when we first started our relationship and promised each other if one of us are in a MH crisis we would seek outside help, which is what I am doing, I'm seeking help from lifeline and here. She is so worried about my well being.
I am really struggling with sleep, partly worrying about my partner and worried about things in my own life. It is hard, but love means so much to me, I love her with all my heart
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Can I ever so gently remind you that we sometimes put unnecessary pressure on ourselves.--- that is very very true @Former-Member for all of us
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