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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Haha @Former-Member

Fingernails already gone

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Well things are starting to move really quickly here. Hope darling is going to be able to hold out over the next 2 months.

We have had our offer ojna house in town verbally accepted. Just need to get a signature for it to be official.

Settlement date proposed is 9 weeks away. Agent expects to sell our place in under 3 weeks.

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Darling was really starting to wind up when talking to the real estate lady. She was lovely. Has offered to find us some boxes and going to come over and give darling hints (and encouragement) on what to do to present the place and how easy is. I thought wow. That is some one who understands...

Got family coming for the weekend to help out with the clean up.

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Am a little concerned with how darling is going to cope over coming weeks but have plenty of help and we are working on a step by step plan for her so she understands what is going on..

Trying to get her to not think too far ahead.

Step 1 is getting the place ready for inspection.

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Off the starting blocks then Bro, really hope move is positive for you and your family @Determined

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I can see it being positive @Former-Member once we are in and settled. .. Darling believes life will be easier there. I hope she is not disappointed.

It will definitely be easier for me because I am not keeping up with yard maintenance here.

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One big benefit for the boys is that it will be about a 5 minute walk or bike ride to a local park and playground. Something I can do with them after school when I am home or on a weekend.

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I'm in same boat with my wife and we're about to prepare to move again, for the sixth time in 5 years.

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Hi @NRG nice to meet you.

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Hope I can be of some help for you & your family
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