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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Thanks @Former-Member

Need to call in first thing tomorrow for an appointment. Hoping I can get one this week. Usual gp can be hard to get into but don't really have the capacity to explain everything to someone new.

On a positive note, went to church this morning and message was so relevant and encouraging. Day at a time at the moment.

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Appointment made for tomorrow @Former-Member

Called first thing this morning and initially could not get it until next week with Dr of choice 😞

Called back an hour later to book in with whoever I could get and was offered an appointment with Dr of choice.

This is a huge relief as I was not looking forward to explaining everything to someone I did not know.

Meeting with student support today at the uni.

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@Determined

Trust these appts are productive Bro.

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Getting your own doctor is one of those little but important Godsends. Hope it all goes well.

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This afternoon's appointment was productive @Former-Member

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@Determined 👍

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How are you going @Determined

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Not doing well at all at the moment @Former-Member

Safe and no risk of any harm (don't want to alarm or worry anyone) but really depressed atm and feeling useless.

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Take care @Determined. We'll be praying.

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Feeling a little better atm but mostly I have reached an I don't care point (re studies) and brain has not had to stretch and focus.

This I feel will come back and bite me if I don't pick up my act. If I fail the semester (real possibility atm) don't know what I will do. Certinally won't help my mood. Something I will be addressing with student support this coming week.

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