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feeling triggered

NameUnknownSenior Contributor19 Jan 2018, 7:13 pm AEDT

feeling triggered

hi everyone

i made the mistake of going on facebook today to try and catch up with a few people and on one of the groups the i am apart of someone made a very insensitive post saying that if you have been raped then it was your fault because of the way you dress men only rape pretty girls at first i was angry but now i just wanna curl up and hide it makes it worse because it as a girl that posted it too how does the way i dressed when i was 3 justify what happened to me

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Shaz51Senior Contributor19 Jan 2018, 7:47 pm AEDT

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Ohhh @NameUnknown

sending you tender hugs , that is terrible

That is sooo wrong to say that , you are not alone my friend

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Shaz51Senior Contributor19 Jan 2018, 7:54 pm AEDT

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@NameUnknown, are you ok

Sitting with you and sending you a hug ,

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utopiaSenior Contributor19 Jan 2018, 8:34 pm AEDT

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@NameUnknown - rape has nothing to do with how someone dresses or their looks. It is not about sex but about anger and control. It doesn't matter your age. No one deserves to be raped.
This person in your group is obviously not very educated if she makes comments like this. Try and ignore such stupid and hurtful words. She obviously doesn't understand.
Again. You did not deserve this. Nothing you did caused this. The only person responsible - 100% responsible - is the rapist.

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NameUnknownSenior Contributor19 Jan 2018, 10:55 pm AEDT

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im ok @Shaz51 i got my supports to fall back on when i need it

thanks @utopia i know that and when i first seen the post i gave her what for and so did a lot of others and i know i was not responsible for it it just really annoying and upsetting that people think this way she has taken it down now and left the group but the fact that she said it doesnt go away and the sad thing is its not the first time someone has said that around me

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utopiaSenior Contributor19 Jan 2018, 11:17 pm AEDT

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@NameUnknown. Unfortunately there are some stupid people in this world. People who think like her. A fair number of them are women. Sad but true. Some people prefer to bury their heads in the sand than educate themselves about rape and sexual assault.
Good on you for not putting up with her archaic views. Well done for telling her.
She may now get educated or at least not postccomments on things she doesn't understand.
Some women 'need' to believe these lies about women causing the rape - otherwise they will have to face the truth - that it can and does happen to anyone

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