outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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rough time
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderyou are a great carer for your Pop and don't let anyone or anything tell you otherwise. Is there a reason you are doubting yourself?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Just things that are being said @Snowie how they are said and the attitudes towards me being a carer. I try to help out etc but it really isnt good enough. Everything really just ends up skrewed up anyway.
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderhugs hun. I know it is hard to ignore unhelpful people but you are doing a great job at being a carer. People are not living in your shoes so don't see what you do behind the scenes for your Pop.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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its not even just them, its pop too @Snowie maybe i should just be quiet, i shouldnt complain anyway at least its an income at the moment and he getting what he wants/needs.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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sorry @Snowie i really dont want to put this onto you. life and mental health is just pure shit.
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderyou are not putting this onto me. Was just feeding the kids.
People can take us for granted even when we are trying to look after them and they don't apreciate all we do for them either. It doesn't mean you are doing a bad job at all.
I don't see it as complaining, you are just expressing your frustrations.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thanks @Snowie
my mh has really really gone down. im questioning everything and anything. i just dont know what to do with myself right now.
my mh has really really gone down. im questioning everything and anything. i just dont know what to do with myself right now.
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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All we can do is take it one day at a time and try and get through that day as good/okish as we can. It doesn't surprise me you feel that way, you have no real support around you hun.
Can you perhaps set yourself some small managable goals that you can achieve. Thats what I try and do. Even it is small as getting out of bed and having something to eat.
My goals today were doing some washing and going to pdoc, both small goals that I could achieve easily.
Just a suggestion hun, but I understand how hard it can be at times. Some days are just plain crappy and all we can do is try and get through them as best as we can @outlander
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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yeah i guess so @Snowie taking baby steps tonight even feels hard. i just want the day to be over already.
i can try and set a goal or 2 each day, i guess any win no matter how small they are...
thank you for your help sis, i know im not the best person to talk to atm, i jsut hope its not pushing you away too..
i can try and set a goal or 2 each day, i guess any win no matter how small they are...
thank you for your help sis, i know im not the best person to talk to atm, i jsut hope its not pushing you away too..
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderhun you could never push me away sis, you are stuck with me!!
Baby steps is all we can do even if they feel incredibly hard. I know the feeling of just wanting the day to be over.
Have you got any plans for tomorrow hun?
