outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Bunniekins i dont want to go but I should go. Its a fathers day thing so should be attending at least for a while..
@Zoe7 i really wish it looked like Toby! The last time we were there my sister and the other kids was playing with it and gave it a piece of food. It usually just sits under the chairs or on its bed when its tired. They were playing fetch with it but when it runs up to the kids to return it they usually stick their hands out which is i guess normal but i hear like a scream even if theres no noise or i can hear my own heart. It really scares the crap out of me. If im not there it makes it abit worse though. Its really tricky to manage! Ive already started the deep breathing, recharged phone credit and have my phone on charge so i can either check in here or scroll through fb or something if its starts getting to much...
@Zoe7 i really wish it looked like Toby! The last time we were there my sister and the other kids was playing with it and gave it a piece of food. It usually just sits under the chairs or on its bed when its tired. They were playing fetch with it but when it runs up to the kids to return it they usually stick their hands out which is i guess normal but i hear like a scream even if theres no noise or i can hear my own heart. It really scares the crap out of me. If im not there it makes it abit worse though. Its really tricky to manage! Ive already started the deep breathing, recharged phone credit and have my phone on charge so i can either check in here or scroll through fb or something if its starts getting to much...
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@outlander I remember when my mother in law used to drag myself and my ex and kids to their extended relos Christmas parties once a year.... I hated them ... one year both my ex and I said no and it was hard ... OMG! the flack that we received but we stuck to our guns and said that we didnt want to go. You know once said you would not believe how many others then said that they didn't want to go either... it just takes one. You might have to be that one.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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The others do want to go thats the problem @Bunniekins i just need to make an appearance and hopefully leave in a little while. Pop said hr doesnt want to stay long but will see how long that lasts.
Mum and kids are there and knowing they are there around that dog isnt doing me any favours at all!
Mum and kids are there and knowing they are there around that dog isnt doing me any favours at all!
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Theae are just the immediate family this time thankfully...
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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It is important to remember also @outlander that your sisters are okay with the dog and they don't feel in danger and that is a good thing. Try not to focus on what could happen but be in the moment more - it is hard to do when you are anxiius but with deep breathing it is possible. If you look for all the negatives your are depriving yourself of the possibility of having any positive experiences Hon.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@outlander I hate family gatherings so much expectations .... luckily for me we have a very small family on my mother's side just my sister and her son. I like dogs but not if they are running around off their lead. I just don't trust them around kids and old people.,
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Bunniekins honestly more often then not when i turn up i get thr what are you doing here look esp ever since i moved out of mums house.
Ok @Zoe7 i will try... i cant take prns either as im driving otherwise that would help a little bit too
Ok @Zoe7 i will try... i cant take prns either as im driving otherwise that would help a little bit too
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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We are in their backyard. They use to have a gate but they dont anymore only around the pool. Plus kids go run around out in the yard @Bunniekins
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Heading there now.. wish me luck...
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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You can only do your best @outlander and that has to be enough. Remember also what @Faith-and-Hope has talked to you about before and we have also discussed - try to breathe through every situation that you are in, if confronted with any form of aggressive behaviour do not 'bite' back - smile and answer politely. I others choose to be not nice or aggressive - you have the power to be calm and polite and then you can walk away with your head held high. And you have your phone if you need support.
