outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Cat is pretty perfect @Zoe7 and toby would look really cute in a little dog onsie! He is super spoilt so im not surprised he has many different coats
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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It might help if you could say why you want to leave @outlander
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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As in on here or to them? @Zoe7
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I was thinking on here but depending on what it is to them as well - you don't need to take shite if that is what is happening - sometimes we need to voice our displeasure in order to be ok ourselves @outlander
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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First it was something that was said but cant really say what it was and then just the disrespect. I did have abit of a blowup at the time. Things seem to be ok now but ive really just had enough. I try to do my best, be kind and encouraging etc but its never enough for people. @Zoe7
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Families are super tricky @outlander - and even more so when there are expectations placed upon us. Sometimes 'blowing up' doesn't actually allow us to be heard - it can have everyone putting their defences up and when that happens what is said often falls on deaf ears. It is much like the kids at school - they knew when I was speaking loudly or even shouting that they weren't in a whole lot of trouble but when I was really quiet and restrained with how I spoke to them that they were in a world of trouble. I know how hard it is to remain calm and restrained in those family situations but much like with the kids at school - it is often when you are quiet but soeak your mind that it has the most impact.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Zoe7 i spoke 3 different times calmly but they dont take me seriously anyway. Doesnt matter if im calm or blowing up. Doesnt matter they are all in bed now. I really just want the day to hurry up and be over.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks for your help tonight @Zoe7 much appreciated
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I get that feeling @outlander - that no matter what yiu do you aren't taken seriously - I have had soooo many of those times with my sister and mother and I have found it necessary to continue to re-inforce what I have been trying to say several times - but on many occasions I have had to walk away for my own sanity - seems like you had to do the same tonight - it totally sucks Hon but that is also what we have to do sometimes also.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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@outlanderSorry things are cra p at home atm
