outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Wow, you got a lot out in that post @outlander
And BTW nothing wrong with that either. Thank you for sharing. I'm not sure who told you you're over sharing - was it a mod or member?
You really don't have any outlet besides here. So I don't care if you overshare because its the way you get a handle on what's happening for you. You can't begin to stabilise until you know how you work. What are your primary emotions? When do they happen and why? When you know your emotions, you can preempt and prepare for how you react to situations and have more control and be more rationale about dealing with a situation.
And what coping skills and strategies work for one person don't always work for another. Coping strategies work the best when you understand the emotions behind them. That's your key to moving forward. Understanding your emotions. I've done a little bit with you, but it's much harder when you're in distress.
You can are not going to find your worth in your family unfortunately. They see you as a commodity to be used. You don't seem to have value in their eyes, which is a shame. You can't change them but you can change you, and your reaction to them. You need to find worth within yourself. You need to find your own light to shine, which means believing in what you have to offer. And you have lots to offer.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Sans911
It took a while to pre-write that out, but i wanted to make sure it was ok to talk to you first. It doesnt matter who it was, its very much in the past but im alot more mindful and better for it and from learning from the mistakes id made. i dont like sounding like a revolving door either.
Im not in distress now unless you class depression in a worsening state distressed. it would be good to do some more work with you if your up for it/when you have time..
I can understand some of my emotions and my reactions behind them when they are more distinct- e.g the dog triggers, or aggressive people, but when its day to day with no real cause and an ever flowing river of mixed emotions that is when i dont understand them- its almost like well what is the reason behind it if theres nothing triggerring it.
Finding my own self worth- i guess thatll take time as per everything else.
It took a while to pre-write that out, but i wanted to make sure it was ok to talk to you first. It doesnt matter who it was, its very much in the past but im alot more mindful and better for it and from learning from the mistakes id made. i dont like sounding like a revolving door either.
Im not in distress now unless you class depression in a worsening state distressed. it would be good to do some more work with you if your up for it/when you have time..
I can understand some of my emotions and my reactions behind them when they are more distinct- e.g the dog triggers, or aggressive people, but when its day to day with no real cause and an ever flowing river of mixed emotions that is when i dont understand them- its almost like well what is the reason behind it if theres nothing triggerring it.
Finding my own self worth- i guess thatll take time as per everything else.
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderI don't think you have overshared ever. And if you did, well who cares. This is an outlet for you and if you need advice/help/an ear to listen about the same things again and again then I am happy to help. We are not judging you at all sweetheart.
@Sans911is giving great advice like always.
Here with you sis 
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thanks @Snowie i dont like sharing the same things though and try to work out some things myself. its hard to ask others for help when i cant help myself. i know that sounds silly and thats usually when people need more help but thats the times i shut down whether intentionally or unintentionally.
it would be nice to have a better life just not sure how to get there.
it was part of the reason i wanted to study again, when i was it was like i was working towards something but not anymore.
it would be nice to have a better life just not sure how to get there.
it was part of the reason i wanted to study again, when i was it was like i was working towards something but not anymore.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Is it bad that i really wish things were different and i was able to take a different path? i mean i dont think ive ever really had a chance to be a kid or a teenager or young adult. ive always been the carer/helper/the one that does everything/ etc.
I dont mind being a carer for pop and having that side of me but i really do feel im missing out and my past hasnt really allowed me to develop more of those skills to be 'normal' so i could relate to those my own age etc.
I dont mind being a carer for pop and having that side of me but i really do feel im missing out and my past hasnt really allowed me to develop more of those skills to be 'normal' so i could relate to those my own age etc.
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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Yeah I know hun. Sometimes it is good for us to try and help ourselves, but sometimes we have to admit we need more help, and that maybe asking on here. I know you have put a lot of things in place already, however sometimes, they are not enough.
But please do not hold back sweetie.
I wish you could have a better life too, but for now let us help you improve the life you have, because you are so worth it sweetie.
Could you possible study again? (sorry if I have asked alread)
@outlander
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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yeah i know @Snowie its still hard to talk when struggling i know you and many others know that too. sometimes its a toss up between do i talk, stay quiet and just follow along or do i need a distraction. hard to tell sometimes.
i want a better life for all of us, not just me. its hard to see how many people are hurting because of MI (thats not the persons fault at all)
i am planning on studying again, when i was studying last year it turns out the certificate counts for nothing because it wasnt done through tafe or uni, so am planning to redo that so i can get course credits if i choose to do another course etc. Just need to save up to leave a deposit so that i can do it again i was going to do a free course online but i liked Zoes suggestion of committing to something and being able to get the certificate at the end rather than just a small short course- gives me abit more focus and motivation
Edited- sorry
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@CheerBear
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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👋 @outlander 💗
I was doing that quiet reading along thing. It's great to hear you're thinking about more study. What about a cert. in mental health, community services, peer support etc.? Not sure if that's something you're interested in but I've been looking at some with a friend and many courses are subsidised lots more than I thought they used to be ☺
I was doing that quiet reading along thing. It's great to hear you're thinking about more study. What about a cert. in mental health, community services, peer support etc.? Not sure if that's something you're interested in but I've been looking at some with a friend and many courses are subsidised lots more than I thought they used to be ☺
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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HI @CheerBear your welcome to read along or comment- whichever your comfortable with. i am kind of stuck on which sort of career path to take, i want to do something in the health department but im not sure of exactly what yet. Its another toss up thing of do i study now and have a focus or do i try to get my head on straighter then study.. ive done the course ill be redoing though but it doesnt count for anything like i was told it was- if i hadve known that i wouldve done the tafe course instead
