outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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haha @outlander - you made me giggle 
You just need to apply the same compassion irl as you do on here and let things flow naturally - you need people around you that are far removed from your home situation @outlander - this is one of your biggest stumbling blocks both now and in the future - all your time is spent looking after others but you need to be able to look after yourself ...and as scary as it is - you need others around you that can look after you at times too - just someone to say how about a coffee or let's go for a walk together. You could make these kind of connections by doing a course where you physically have to attend. I know it is scary but I believe it is something you really need to think about to be able to move forward. You are not going to be able to get a job in an area you are interested in if you cannot be around people Hon.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I am doing ok @outlander I would let you know if I wasn't Hon - go ahead and unload on me - I aint going anywhere!
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Unknown userMember
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Thanks @outlander xox
I'm flat if i stop but fine if i keep moving. Thanks for asking. Hope u rest well after your busy day ❤
I'm flat if i stop but fine if i keep moving. Thanks for asking. Hope u rest well after your busy day ❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ok that is good @Zoe7 i thought it mightve been triggerred due to your circumstances atm.
Lol good to see you giggle. It really does sound silly. Im around people all the time yet i cant step foot in a tafe or even think about it without getting nervous.
I do need to make other changes though from what im already doing.
Maybe the course ( or maybe another one abit longer term) even though online would still be ok as theres usually study groups and similar sessions or at least be able to find others doing the course to that i can communicate with etc in my area. Do you think that would be an ok starting point then i can work around pop more as well or hold sessions at my house
Then it would work around both jobs, appts etc but still getting out of my comfort zone..
Lol good to see you giggle. It really does sound silly. Im around people all the time yet i cant step foot in a tafe or even think about it without getting nervous.
I do need to make other changes though from what im already doing.
Maybe the course ( or maybe another one abit longer term) even though online would still be ok as theres usually study groups and similar sessions or at least be able to find others doing the course to that i can communicate with etc in my area. Do you think that would be an ok starting point then i can work around pop more as well or hold sessions at my house
Then it would work around both jobs, appts etc but still getting out of my comfort zone..
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member have you been looking after you after a big day?
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I think that is a fantastic starting point for you @outlander - you can still do the study you want but also meet up with people with the same interests as you on a more professional basis and if that develops any friendships out of it then that is a bonus - and you know we are here for you when that anxiety feels like it is taking hold.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Zoe7 i guess now its a matter of if i want to redo that course which im thinking i will so that if i choose to do other courses i can have that as credit or prior experience or whatever it is these days...
I was really hesitating to even think of studies again. I always push myself when it comes to wor but i often fall in the deep end with know how much is to much.
Ive been thinking about it more though and using the pros and cons list that @Sans911 had taught me to do. They weigh up pretty equal on either side but maybe itll be helpful so i have something else to do and to think about and work towards rather thn wondering what i am doing. Of course stil search for a psychologist and do all of those things.
But then the other half of me says hmm maybe you should wait abit longer and get intosee a psychologist and just become abit more stable first so really i am still undecided.
There are free courses they only run for 6 weeks with short quizzes and a certificate thing at the end but maybe i could do one of those to start with to see how i go at least its free so id i fail or pull out its not a big deal....
What do you guys think?
I was really hesitating to even think of studies again. I always push myself when it comes to wor but i often fall in the deep end with know how much is to much.
Ive been thinking about it more though and using the pros and cons list that @Sans911 had taught me to do. They weigh up pretty equal on either side but maybe itll be helpful so i have something else to do and to think about and work towards rather thn wondering what i am doing. Of course stil search for a psychologist and do all of those things.
But then the other half of me says hmm maybe you should wait abit longer and get intosee a psychologist and just become abit more stable first so really i am still undecided.
There are free courses they only run for 6 weeks with short quizzes and a certificate thing at the end but maybe i could do one of those to start with to see how i go at least its free so id i fail or pull out its not a big deal....
What do you guys think?
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I think doing the free courses is a good idea to get your feet wet @outlander but I also think it would be more beneficial for you to do a course that you need to stick to and can't pull out of - it makes you accountable to someone other than yourself then. It is a different typ of accountability than you caring for your Pop or sisters or the horses - it is structured and if you are paying for it there is more incentive for you to try your best and get the most out of it.
There is a time and a place for everything and maybe your time now is to find a place in a course that can give you wide ranging and recognisable qualifications that you can use to find work in the future.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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What are you gon a try to do @outlander?
Sorry I haven't been keeping up to date
Sorry I haven't been keeping up to date
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Zoe7 youve made some really good points. Ill have a think on it tonight and the next day or so and just do some enquiring to see when the intakes etc are as well.
