outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Bella1978the therapist i have now is focussing solely on that. literally i walk in and basically start all over again then leave wondering how the hell im suppose to cope with all of what i just talked about. this is the 5th psych. i only have 6 sessions left soon to be 5 itll be a waste of time now if i change.
ive spent time with my dog, i couldnt walk outside before, i taught her how to sit recently to try and curb that fear and i go ok on my own... until my sisters (both it doesnt matter which one) and then its all over.
i hate vaccuming, its almost the only thing i can do atm. hopefully your house doesnt have too much carpet or perhaps you need a lgihter vaccum? theres one at big w thats 30$ and its small an comfact, high handles and lightweight- might work for you and its powerful too.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Sans911
( you dont need to respond unless you want to , just acknowledging ive noticed your support, thank you)
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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i dont really know @MDT
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander hey lil Sis. I actually don't believe it's appropriate that you work on deep seated traumas right now, and most good therapists would agree. Trauma isn't usually worked on until you are stable and ready. There's a couple of therapy modalities I think would suit you. Either schema therapy or EMDR.
And although this might sound harsh, the only way your sister could be affected is if you continuously expose her to it. Most children are incredibly resilient. At some point you need to deal with this trauma. When you intervened in the dog fight, it was from pure protective love and caring. It wasn't stupid at all. And it most certainly wasn't your fault. You need to find forgiveness in your own heart, and believe it that you did everything you could at the time.
And I hear you saying you can't have a breakdown but I remember only a few months ago this is what happened when you weren't sleeping, eating, having panic attacks, etc. You desperately need the right people to support you encourage you, guide you. You don't have any of this. They bully you into what they want you to do, and it's not helping.
Can you think about ringing the BPD foundation next week and trying to see how they can help?
You can't carry on like this @outlander. You already have a broken hand, you've almost crashed your car several times. I know you are frustrated, despairing, feel worthless and hopeless, but start fighting for a better life for you hun. I know you have massive potential. Keep fighting. Yes, it's exhausting, but so necessary.
And although this might sound harsh, the only way your sister could be affected is if you continuously expose her to it. Most children are incredibly resilient. At some point you need to deal with this trauma. When you intervened in the dog fight, it was from pure protective love and caring. It wasn't stupid at all. And it most certainly wasn't your fault. You need to find forgiveness in your own heart, and believe it that you did everything you could at the time.
And I hear you saying you can't have a breakdown but I remember only a few months ago this is what happened when you weren't sleeping, eating, having panic attacks, etc. You desperately need the right people to support you encourage you, guide you. You don't have any of this. They bully you into what they want you to do, and it's not helping.
Can you think about ringing the BPD foundation next week and trying to see how they can help?
You can't carry on like this @outlander. You already have a broken hand, you've almost crashed your car several times. I know you are frustrated, despairing, feel worthless and hopeless, but start fighting for a better life for you hun. I know you have massive potential. Keep fighting. Yes, it's exhausting, but so necessary.
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Bella1978Senior Contributor
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@outlander
ah ok, starting all over again each time you see her wouldnt be helping at all luv 😞
im glad you are gaining confidence with your dog. but thats gotta be hard when your sisters come out as you still have that fear.
i wish i knew what to say luv. i am thinking of you and i am here for you. i just feel useless sometimes as i wish i knew what to say to make it all better! i hope me being here comforting you and knowing that i am here for you is reassuring though xxxx
ps - whole house is carpet lol! but im done now!
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Sans911the therapist i have now is rather intimidating, its hard to say no and she is adamant that i need to do trauma work now otherwise im not going to get any better. i want to get through this but i dont know how. my psychiatrist contradicts herself and says i dont think you should do trauma work but your not working hard enough, my gp- she switches between yes and no- maybe shes stuck too, and the psychologist is saying i need to face it now. im confused by it all, theres no clarity because they are all saying different things- when shouldnt they all be working abit more in colaboration (esp the gp and psychiatrist and they deal with the meds) ..?
"And although this might sound harsh, the only way your sister could be affected is if you continuously expose her to it." im abit confused with this part, can you explain abit more please? i think i understand but im not sure.
i forgot about the bpd foundation as the website was overwhelming so put it aside at the time but i can ask them. i dont know what to say to them either. im afraid of what they might say in return.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Bella1978you being here is helping alot more than you know! i dont need fancy words to be helped. thank you
im glad your house is done now. our house is all carpet too besides the dining room/kitchen.
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Bella1978Senior Contributor
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@outlander
im glad my presence is helpful luv! lol
im knackered, my back is aching! but all done. how you holding up luv?
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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MDTSenior Contributor
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sometimes constantly going over things can bring us down @outlander
please dont think im having a go at you but i do notice that your longer responses can sometimes end up festering. But again, if it helps you process it then definitely do it. I think i am trying to say there is a balance if you know what i mean?
specialists and your doctors can screw about with your own perceptions of your MH.In the end however, you are the only one who can decide on wjere and what to do. Maybe challenging yourself a bit could help? idk. The answers are unknown til you try something. Then you go from there.
please dont think im having a go at you but i do notice that your longer responses can sometimes end up festering. But again, if it helps you process it then definitely do it. I think i am trying to say there is a balance if you know what i mean?
specialists and your doctors can screw about with your own perceptions of your MH.In the end however, you are the only one who can decide on wjere and what to do. Maybe challenging yourself a bit could help? idk. The answers are unknown til you try something. Then you go from there.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yeh im ok @Bella1978 thanks. Maybe you could do some of your mosaics or something easy going to rest but keep occupied?
Thanks @MDT yep a work in progress. Ive been keeping a balance the best i can thanks. i dont know what you mean by festering though when i barely talk except in short incriments unless i feel the need to write longer responses such a responding to a longer post so im not sure what you mean by that
Thanks @MDT yep a work in progress. Ive been keeping a balance the best i can thanks. i dont know what you mean by festering though when i barely talk except in short incriments unless i feel the need to write longer responses such a responding to a longer post so im not sure what you mean by that
