outlanderSenior Contributor
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is anyone around to talk to atm
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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It's about witch hunting, how it started in Europe and came to Scotland. It's really sad the way they were tortured, the horrific conditions of the jails they were kept in. So much was made up by heresay and whipping up frenzy.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Was there any reason why you were so close to your nan?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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i dont know much about witch hunting @Sans911 its an interesting topic though. In outlander they have abit of the witches or who they called witches and it showed one of their rituals in it.
she basically raised me @Sans911 i spent more time with her than anyone else. most of my memories are more when she become sick though. i helped care for her by the time i was 13. not fully but helped around the house and had sleepovers and things. she wasnt as sick when i was that age and she could still do some things for herself but i didnt mind helping around the house abit. her worst years were the final 3 when she had cancer and there wasnt much treatment that could be done for her because of her other ailment making her more fragile that most others her age
she basically raised me @Sans911 i spent more time with her than anyone else. most of my memories are more when she become sick though. i helped care for her by the time i was 13. not fully but helped around the house and had sleepovers and things. she wasnt as sick when i was that age and she could still do some things for herself but i didnt mind helping around the house abit. her worst years were the final 3 when she had cancer and there wasnt much treatment that could be done for her because of her other ailment making her more fragile that most others her age
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Was she someone you could turn to? And trusted? It must of been so hard to see her unwell. Were you also caring for your pop at the same time?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yes, yes and not really @Sans911 he didnt become unwell more until she passed away. Mum cared for her too. I helped pop by helping nan so like helping with the housework and lawns and things and helping wheel her into the bathroom and those sorts of things. Helped take her to appointments as well to accompany them. Pop was hard on hearing then as well so i was the one who use to listen and relay back what the dr etc was saying or had said to them.
We use to go for walks and shopping when she was well enough to go on her mobility scooter or felt ok to go out for a little bit while we pushed her in the wheelchair. I found out the other day she use to knit and made some baby clothes for her kids or the first born grandkids.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Shes been gone 3 yrs now and ive been pops carer for 2 and a half @Sans911
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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So you've had big responsibilities for quite some time from a young age. Did it ever bother you?
Have you seen what she knitted? That must be such a nice thing to know about her. You obviously have inherited some of her skill as you pick up crochet very quickly.
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Have you seen what she knitted? That must be such a nice thing to know about her. You obviously have inherited some of her skill as you pick up crochet very quickly.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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The responsibilities did bother me sometimes but i have more guilt than anything now. Wishing i could have done more. There were days i was frustrated because i couldnt go out with friends or i only had limited time. I didn't have many friends through high school but i spent alot of time wondering it wouldve been like to not have had the responsibilities and more freedom to be a kid/teenager. When i did have a few friends in the early high school yrs i didnt go out much because i had things at home.
Feels like i wasted what time i did have left with her. It breaks me that i had some very selfish moments in her last few months so the good memories others had gained. I lost them. One particular event. The last one she ever went to i was in my 'fighting the bit' stage and needed a break ( i was her carer plus in yr 12 and a small job on the side) and missed the whole thing. Instead of goofing off when she was having a good day i should have been enjoying it.
I got to see a pic of my cousin in a little jacket she made him when he was a baby. There doesnt seem to be any other pictures or things shes made still around. Its nice to know though. @Sans911
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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The only real way I knew how to cope with what was happening at the time and also coping with my traumas was to ignore it or to study or to help.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I know its late now too and i dont want to keep you up. Youve done more thsn enough for me today and tonight esp listening to my rambles and things.
