outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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it is not about the income hun, it is about the way you are being treated. I am guessing you don't know what sort of mood your pop will be in when you wake up or when you come home from being out. That must be really hard to live with, getting told off when you are just trying to do your best.
@outlander
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MDTSenior Contributor
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can empathise with you @outlander about this
sitting with you at this time knowing how you feel
sitting with you at this time knowing how you feel
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Atm his predictable moods are sulky and look for anyone to complain to moods @Snowie and that is becoming the new normal unless hes with his mates out and about or family comes over.
If i even give a sigh or im in a mood then he goes into sulky mode and makes things feel even worse. I know hr probably doesnt mean to do that but he takes everything out on me. There is not breathing space. Even when im out im so stressed about him and the kids and mum (even though they dont live under the same roof) i feel im loosing even more control. I dont know how to 'turn off' so to speak so that i can enjoy things again. Im finding even when im drawing or crochetting im dissociating but the dissociation is more like moments of excessive worry to the point i cant remember then go back to excessive worrying.
Either way not only do i need help but so does pop. He needs other people to talk to and support services that have that patience so i can regain mine as right now i dont have much even though im generally a patient person. Not sure if that makes sense?
Im just so stuck so i hope the gp can help abit on monday and i have my nurse on monday too
If i even give a sigh or im in a mood then he goes into sulky mode and makes things feel even worse. I know hr probably doesnt mean to do that but he takes everything out on me. There is not breathing space. Even when im out im so stressed about him and the kids and mum (even though they dont live under the same roof) i feel im loosing even more control. I dont know how to 'turn off' so to speak so that i can enjoy things again. Im finding even when im drawing or crochetting im dissociating but the dissociation is more like moments of excessive worry to the point i cant remember then go back to excessive worrying.
Either way not only do i need help but so does pop. He needs other people to talk to and support services that have that patience so i can regain mine as right now i dont have much even though im generally a patient person. Not sure if that makes sense?
Im just so stuck so i hope the gp can help abit on monday and i have my nurse on monday too
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @MDT
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MDTSenior Contributor
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have you tried bringing this up with him @outlander ?
By talking about it.
I know this is probably the pot calling the kettle black by me and my stuff atm but it might work?
By talking about it.
I know this is probably the pot calling the kettle black by me and my stuff atm but it might work?
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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It does make sense @outlander. Sounds like you need to talk to someone about the excessive worrying to see what can be done about that. It must not be helping you.
I am glad you have your nurse on Monday too. Can you talk to her about any of this?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yeah my nurse is pretty good @Snowie so ill talk to her about this stuff too. Shes the only heath professional thats stayed with me. Ive seen her on and off ever since i was in yr 10 so she is someone I trust.
Yes ive spoken to him before about it but he gets to upset and forgets anyway @MDT i cant keep doing that
Yes ive spoken to him before about it but he gets to upset and forgets anyway @MDT i cant keep doing that
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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I am glad you have your nurse @outlander . She might be able to come up with a few suggestions for you, along with your Pop's doctor.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yeah i just have to double check but i think i see her before i see pops gp so i could ask her about things too which would be good @Snowie
Im not pressuring you to talk am i?
Can i ask how your feeling tonight?
Im not pressuring you to talk am i?
Can i ask how your feeling tonight?
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MDTSenior Contributor
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I see
Sorry @outlander
I'm not good with this stufd
Sorry @outlander
I'm not good with this stufd
