outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Nothing that bothers people or causes stress or worry or overwhelm is silly @outlander. Big hugs.
Sounds like a pretty productive day for you. Have you been working on your blankets?
I had a meeting this morning which was enough for my day so the rest of the day is free. I'm about to try to have something to eat. Vegemite toast is winning I think. Maybe then chill on the lounge for a couple of hours until the kids and other person are home.
Sounds like a pretty productive day for you. Have you been working on your blankets?
I had a meeting this morning which was enough for my day so the rest of the day is free. I'm about to try to have something to eat. Vegemite toast is winning I think. Maybe then chill on the lounge for a couple of hours until the kids and other person are home.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thanks CB, maybe if i can find words for it ill write a post up later. i think its things weve spoke about before like the wanting to be 'normal' and the worries of teeth removal and just 'stuff'
i have been working on my aunts blanket, im just over halfway now so im trying to get it inished for her. im hoping the 2 half yarns ive got remaining and another one of each colour will cover it otherwise will have to buy more . my rainbow ones been on the backburner abit so i can just focus on one at a time inbetween making my little butterflies, bows and mini beanies and scarves just to change it up abit.
Hows yours graphgan going?
theres nothing wrong with vegemite toast either, usually goes ok with a cup of tea too. i did read you had a meeting somewhere, did you you want to talk about it?
chilling on the lounge for a while sounds goo, ive been watching xmas movies when im able to sit for a while lol.
i have been working on my aunts blanket, im just over halfway now so im trying to get it inished for her. im hoping the 2 half yarns ive got remaining and another one of each colour will cover it otherwise will have to buy more . my rainbow ones been on the backburner abit so i can just focus on one at a time inbetween making my little butterflies, bows and mini beanies and scarves just to change it up abit.
Hows yours graphgan going?
theres nothing wrong with vegemite toast either, usually goes ok with a cup of tea too. i did read you had a meeting somewhere, did you you want to talk about it?
chilling on the lounge for a while sounds goo, ive been watching xmas movies when im able to sit for a while lol.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Those things (like wanting to be normal) can be hard to really identify or picture what you'd like them to look like @outlander. Everything and nothing makes lots of sense.
Well done on your crochet and making those little things. Too cute! I havent picked up my graphghan for a little while but will get there.
Vegemite toast is soooooo good! Cup of tea soon too 🙂
My meeting went well thanks. Really I dont think I cared too much after yesterday's news, which perhaps isn't the worst thing. It could have definitely been worse this morning and it was a huge stress to get to it, but I did it and will have something to go with soon 🙂
Just had a call to pick person up early and had better run 👋💗
Well done on your crochet and making those little things. Too cute! I havent picked up my graphghan for a little while but will get there.
Vegemite toast is soooooo good! Cup of tea soon too 🙂
My meeting went well thanks. Really I dont think I cared too much after yesterday's news, which perhaps isn't the worst thing. It could have definitely been worse this morning and it was a huge stress to get to it, but I did it and will have something to go with soon 🙂
Just had a call to pick person up early and had better run 👋💗
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thanks @CheerBear for understanding, as always. 
thats ok, you work alot faster than me youll probably finish at the same time as i finsih the baby blanket lol.
im glad your meeting went well 🙂 and the emotions of yesterday are settled abit.
Hoping you get some more chill time today.
thats ok, you work alot faster than me youll probably finish at the same time as i finsih the baby blanket lol.
im glad your meeting went well 🙂 and the emotions of yesterday are settled abit.
Hoping you get some more chill time today.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Morning lil Sis @outlander
I've arrived back in the West this morning. Very early flight, so I might head off for a sleep before going out to get shopping
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hi sis ❤
Its afternoon here now @Sans911 that mustve been an early flight though! Catching up on some sleep before shopping sounds like a good idea
Its afternoon here now @Sans911 that mustve been an early flight though! Catching up on some sleep before shopping sounds like a good idea
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Not really coping so well today.
Things are really hard and messy 😞
Things are really hard and messy 😞
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Sans911
Things in my world atm are very difficult and messy. I have been having some really weird and distrurbing dreams, they are really mixed up between my own traumas, things happening in the furture and what might happen but its not specific so its confusing as well.
Theres a big part of me that want to be normal and to experience normal things too. i guess thats pretty average for someone my age.. its really making me feel isolated and alone esp offline.
The stresses and pressures im under arent helping, my car is still off the road, finances are tight so ive had to swallow my pride and ask for help with it, my workload will be increasing, and stuff within the family like me having the kids even more while mums on work placement is extra draining. Things with pop arent going so well and his conditions are a little worse for wear the past few days as well. Ive been getting in trouble alot and then having the guilt card played on me.
I am s""t scared of this dental surgury, trying to organise some care for pop during that time, and trying to get family to stop in for some companionship for pop besides me as well as getting price estimates of hotels because its a fair hike away.
i think thats all.........
Things in my world atm are very difficult and messy. I have been having some really weird and distrurbing dreams, they are really mixed up between my own traumas, things happening in the furture and what might happen but its not specific so its confusing as well.
Theres a big part of me that want to be normal and to experience normal things too. i guess thats pretty average for someone my age.. its really making me feel isolated and alone esp offline.
The stresses and pressures im under arent helping, my car is still off the road, finances are tight so ive had to swallow my pride and ask for help with it, my workload will be increasing, and stuff within the family like me having the kids even more while mums on work placement is extra draining. Things with pop arent going so well and his conditions are a little worse for wear the past few days as well. Ive been getting in trouble alot and then having the guilt card played on me.
I am s""t scared of this dental surgury, trying to organise some care for pop during that time, and trying to get family to stop in for some companionship for pop besides me as well as getting price estimates of hotels because its a fair hike away.
i think thats all.........
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Hi @outlander
firstly sorry I didn’t come back the other night. I got waylaid having a chat with my kids. By the time I got back I was so tired and just needed to wind down.
I read your your post last night and wanted to respond. Sometimes when we look at all the things going on it becomes so overwhelming. I think I get overwhelmed like you easily when things feel too much. I’ve learned that I can’t do it anymore, as in I can’t list off all the things causing stress or even think about them without falling into a complete mess and not getting out of bed for the day.
Can you just just look at a day at a time. Everytime you start future thinking try to bring yourself back to today. I can’t do this all the time but am getting better at doing it on more days than not. I try to find something in the day that was ok or plan for that to happen.
I know now you are still young (well compared to us oldies) but life will always throw curve balls. The trick is not to let them eat you up. This is all said from the queen of letting small things devour me but I am much more resilient now. It takes time to understand and work this out. It’s taken me a looooong time.
I was also also wondering if you have looked into counselling with groups like Anglicare or the Mental Illness Fellowship in your state. They all offer (free I think) counselling services as well but I’m not sure of wait lists.
I hope today is ok. Take care. 💜🤗
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hi @Teej
Theres really no reason to apologise
Things really are overwhelming and too much, even the small stuff lately. Taking it day by day is a good idea, and something ive been trying to do but even day by day its overwhelming. I feels suffocating and it actually affects my breathing so im having to remind myself to at least take a few breaths here and there. I kinda have to look abit ahead as i need to organise some nursing/home care for Jaunuary/February but ill try my best to come back to the now as much as possible.
i very much get the falling into a mess, its something im trying to prevent from happening as we speak. Can i ask how you learnt not to let those curveballs take you out?
i can see youve made some improvements already since i first met you for sure!
Im actually happy with my therapist through headspace but its really limited. When i can get rhe care plan next yr itll be better and not trying to fit everything into 2 sessions. ive been stalling to attend the last session as i know there will be a few months wait. Do you ever get to the stage where you arent sure about doing counselling anymore? I know its suppose to help and all and next year the plan was to start trauma therapy but i question whether going at all is the right choice. maybe its just how im feeling at the moment, im just.. i dont know... 'ehh'......
Today wasnt that good either, i found out a few things that were rather hurtful so just having to sit with that too.
Thanks for caring and checking in
_sorry had to edit something, no need to respond of course, something just wasnt making sense in the post to anyone who is reading.
