rough time

I'll. Have a read in ten mins. Just getting to station @outlander

Really sorry to hear that is the way it is with your mum @outlander. It sucks heaps.

Very tricky to manage everything when you need some time off and/or support but you care for someone who needs you. I find that one really difficult. I have one person who could help out with the kids if I really needed but now they will be completely limited in what they can do as they're caring for, and will need to continue to care for, the person currently in hospital who will have huge needs. I feel panicked at the thought that I could become sick or crash (like I have done in a pretty spectacular way before 😏). Saying all of that because I think I can relate to the worry and stress you might be feeling with a similar issue. It's not surprising that it is taking up some thought and is hard to shake.

So good to hear you like your crochet. There's some cool Grinch stuff out there too (hint hint 😝😉). Thank goodness for distractions and options for calm down activities, even if they don't always work ❤

Had a read @outlander
@CheerBear (hi to you too) has some good suggestions.

When I find I go through moments like this I do find that writing stuff out and giving order to it can help. It doesn't even need to be in order. Just a list of things to do. In no order at all. At least this way it's all out there. Not just floating about idly in my head.

Is that appt in December with your headspace psych? Maybe you could raise this with them - specifically about how to organise things in life to make it easier on you.

It really doea suck @CheerBear it makes it hard to talk to her at all. Its pretty much the same as most of my family. They usually blame everyone else but themselves and get quite defensive esp when it comes to me and my needs.

I can imagine that would feel quite pressurised for you too (not that its their fault ) but everyone needs a breather sometimes including supermums like yourself even if its hard to get. Thanks for understanding CB, much appreciated. Wouldnt it be nice if we could actually switch off for a little while. Im not sure if ive gone off anxious mode yet which is very rattley..mm not sure if that makes sense and its really affecting everything including my studies.

Lol mm im not sure im that clever yet how about I start with bows and butterflies and work up to the harder stuff.

Yeah i guess @MDT i still cant write a list until i know what is relevant.
No december is when i see the surgical team for yet another long appt and fins out more info and sugury dates.
I dont even know when my next headspace appt is not that it really matters as i dont have any sessions left

Families can be very tricky @outlander. Sorry you have so much to consider and work around.

Thank you for your understanding also. Rattley, jumbly, banana-ish - it all makes sense. It would be really hard to study with that happening. I wish I could do it but I know I am not there just yet. It's on my next year goals to try again though.

You're clever and you have determination. You will get there!

I have a friend coming over in a moment and am heading out for a bit. Great to catch up with you and hope there's some peace somewhere soon.

Giant hugs 💗

Oops and a hi to you also @MDT. Hope you're going OK or better 😊

Thanks for your help @CheerBear
Enjoy the time with your friend 💞

And yes i totally get rattly banana-ish and the likes. Tricky stuff!

I see
I'm a bit behind the eight ball on your situation @outlander I must admit. Apologies for that.

There are lots of people to keep in contact with on here so remembering everything can be a bit much. On top of what each of us deal with anyway.

I guess the start point would be to figure out what's the most important thing. Priorities. It sounds like your welfare is being neglected. You're more than just a carer for your pop and sisters. You have your own life to maintain.

Thats ok @MDT

I havent really been talking much. Kinda just meantioning things here and there