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Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

NikNikSenior Contributor04 Jan 2018, 2:43 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

Hi everyone,

For the "average" person, the holiday break provides a time to unwind and relax after a big year. For those of us with a loved one with a mental illness, it can mean added stress through services being closed, disruptive routines, triggering holidays - things that the "average" person wouldn't understand.

This is why January frequently "burn out" time for many of us.

During this Topic Tuesday we will discuss noticing and managing burn out when it creeps in. Whether you have wonderful strategies to share or are in the middle of it all and need help - join us from 7pm AEDT.

Two things you can do now:

1) Hit the 'Like' button below if you want an email reminder on the night

2) Read our blog about Burn Out

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BillyCasual Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:47 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

Ditto for me Determined. I try and use respite services wherever I can. 2017 was a disaster as I didn’t take leave from work and there for I cared for my ‘charge’ without a break and now, in early 2018, I’m absolutely worn out!

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JannaSenior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:48 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

That is great to hear @Take_me_as_i_am.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:49 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

i made a deal with myself this year to make my self care come first and my goals are that i need to say No more often.
Get a massage once a week.
And make time to do my arts and crafts. --- that is soo good @Take_me_as_i_am

I will this time try to finished my jigsaw puzzle which has been on the table for a long time

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AdgeSenior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:50 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

I'm a disability carer too @Take_me_as_i_am

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AdgeSenior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:52 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

I get a massage every few weeks, even though I don't want to spare the money.

I do 2 yoga classes each week, that helps.

Adge

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DeterminedSenior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:53 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

My self care goals for this year:

Continue attending a men’s bible study when it resumes at start of school year. (This will depend on as yet unconfirmed work roster).
Exercise. I had a goal of 5000 km on my bike for 2017, that seemed reasonable at the time but I managed only 150 outside. This year I am aiming for 2000km. (That’s only 40 km or 2 hours a week)
Investigate joining the local photography club. (This will be hard having to go out and meet new people)
Resume another sporting activity that used to excite me.
Continue with counselling sessions. I was going to give up but gp wants me to continue either with existing councillor if she is happy to continue to see me (last visit she raised the concern that she felt she was not helping me) or find a new councillor.
-This is all dependent on having back up supports in place at home ... work in progress...
Improved diet, not that my diet is bad but I want to get back into some fruit and vege smoothies as a detox.

These are not new year resolutions as such, not big on them, but re committing to existing areas of self care that I have been discussing with my councillor over the last couple of months.

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JannaSenior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:54 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

Interesting how taking or having had a holiday doesn't seem to get a mention. No wonder we're burning out. It has been 4-5 years since I last had a true vacation.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:54 pm AEDT

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Hello @Billy

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Take_me_as_i_amContributor23 Jan 2018, 8:54 pm AEDT

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Thanks @Shaz51 and @Janna it had to happen, i was working way to much, never seeing my friends or family and truly burning myself out!

Oooo puzzles are great @Shaz51 my friend had a donut puzzle the other day and by the end of it.... i had to go buy donuts! I was starting to drool!

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NikNikSenior Contributor23 Jan 2018, 8:54 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// Burn Out // Tues. 23 Jan. 7pm - 9pm AEDT

So what I'm noticing is that the small things do count. Though, as it is the way with Carers, we are very focused on the wellbeing of our loved one.

Finding balance is tricky.

I thought the last thing I would share tonight is this matrix.

A lot of research said that it's important to make list and priorities - but what if your list is full of priorities!

This matrix is something you can use to categorise the importance of a task based on the impact it will have on you and the impact it will have on your loved one.

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