I don’t know what’s wrong with me !

Hello @esprit

And a warm welcome to Sane. It's sounds like everything is reaching a head for you and it can feel like it's just too much at times. I know that feeling well and truly empathise. Life can sure throw its curveballs and feeling lonely in it is the worst part. Please let me assure you that you are not alone here.

Menopause can be a very difficult phase in a some women's lives. I have suffered the severe anxiety caused from going through menopause, and found the right dose of HRT to help tremendously. I am still on a very low reduced dose of it after 5 years. I also had to take an anti-d for 18 mths that also helped temporarily. I know you are not feeling depressed but certain ant-ds are also good for anxiety. When the anxiety is reduced and eased, this may help decease the dizzy spells from the menieres that you are experiencing. Anxiety attacks alone use to make me dizzy, so I found working on reducing the anxiety helped the latter. It's food for thought.

It's always harder when we have to deal with adversities and life's bumps alone. Please know that you are not alone here. To help also reduce your anxiety try not to worry about the future - tomorrow is not guaranteed for anyone anyway. It helps me to cope and reduce stress/anxiety "to just live for the day" and cope with things one day at a time. Otherwise it can become catastrophising in our minds and hence overwhelm us which is a major cause of anxiety. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Doing the best we can in each day is all any of us can do and somehow we find a way to resolve our issues and survive by just focusing on the issues and activities of the present. Hang in there with baby steps.

Your welcome @esprit. Excessive stress is a terrible thing, especially when problems seem to arise one after the other. I again empathise as that has been the case with myself over several years. And this type of excessive stress can be difficult to cope with.

In my first post I offered a few ways that I find extremely helpful in coping with this stress which I hope will help you. Have you ever sought the help of a counsellor or psychologist etc that can talk with about your stress whom can listen and offer coping strategies that can enable you to with your life stressors better? This also may help.

Just the fact that we have "someone" to talk with about our life problems can alleviate our stress and anxiety. For me "it's having no one to talk to" and/or "not being impartially "heard" that can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and not being able to cope with life well.

So talking to someone about how you are feeling @esprit is vitally important towards coping with anxiety and life problems. And it eases the lonliness we carry when faced with such life's adversities, which unfortunately is life happening. Talk here anytime you need to as you are not alone. Sending a warm hug 🤗

Thank you @esprit for your offer of an ear. It really does make a difference to have someone care enough to listen. Mental illness certainly does suck - it's living a life of courage each day. I do hope everything with your current job goes well - try not to let the warning rattle you, just give it your best and it should work out. We can do no more than that.

I am doing volunteer work with my husband at our local community centre. We work in the non for profit food shop where we sell it at minimum price and all proceeds go back into the community to help the disadvataged. I also help and support distressed people whom come into the shop - some need advice but mainly they just need to talk to someone to feel valued, worthwhile and not so alone. I find this rewarding.

But when I go back (am on holidays at the moment), there will be extra challenges to meet which I am unsure how I will handle (I have been asked to sit on the board). This requires a great amount of responsibility and with having a husband with multiple health issues to help and my daughter's issues - I become anxious about coping. I suppose it's a matter of trying and if it's too much I will have to pull out. Not sure, as I don't like to let people down. I am a big believer in kindness.

Hope your day is going well and thank you for listening 😊

Hello @LostAngel 👋 and welcome. So glad to read that you have been proactive in reaching out. It can be difficult to obtain crisis and other helplines at this time of the year. I hope you are doing okay

@esprit - I also meant to add to the post above ^ that I wish you the best finding a good psychologist that you can talk to. It really can relieve anxiety just having someone listen.